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twolfe1986 · Aug 12, 2009, 08:27 PM

My son is almost 4 and his dad has never seen him. He pays child support... I`m with someone else, and have asked my son`s sperm donor to sign over his rights... he agreed.. now what do I have to do in order for this to happen?

N0help4u · Aug 12, 2009, 08:32 PM

Are you married to the someone else?
The only way you can do that is to be married and have him adopt.

Alty · Aug 12, 2009, 08:34 PM

Sign over his rights to what? He doesn't see his son, he only supports him, which he has to do.

What rights do you want him to give up?

Is the egg donor going to marry the boyfriend? Is that it?

stinawords · Aug 12, 2009, 10:05 PM

First off a sperm donor shouldn't be paying support because legally speaking (this is a legal board after all) a sperm donor goes to a sperm bank to make their deposit and what happens after that is not up to them. What I believe you are referencing the biological father. If that is the case then marry your boyfriend (or whatever it takes to meet your states criteria to make him eligeble to adopt) and hire a lawyer to draw up the papers simple as that. On the other hand if you are just one of the very rare and maybe lucky one that went to the sperm bank and the donor found out you used his sperm and decided to send you payments then there really isn't anything you need to to because it isn't his child legally.

JudyKayTee · Aug 13, 2009, 05:50 AM

I've never seen a sperm donor ordered to pay support, although I do believe this is the law in California.

Why did you go to a sperm bank in the first place?

N0help4u · Aug 13, 2009, 05:58 AM

I get tired of hearing all the girls in my neighborhood referring to the guy they cared enough to father their babies as 'the sperm donor' too.
I don't care how bad the relationship got they are still the dad.

Now we have generation hoseurdaddy calling the fathers sperm donors like they are some amoebia that just crawled off the bedsheet.

JudyKayTee · Aug 13, 2009, 06:01 AM

Originally Posted by N0help4u

I get tired of hearing all the girls in my neighborhood referring to the guy they cared enough to father their babies as 'the sperm donor' too.
I don't care how bad the relationship got they are still the dad.

Now we have generation hoseurdaddy calling the fathers sperm donors like they are some amoebia that just crawled off the bedsheet.

And you have to wonder if this flippant attitude carries over onto the child - sad situation, indeed. Another case where the male was good enough to have unprotected sex with but then turned into a "sperm donor."

Well, it is a relief from the "he's a drug addict" and "she's psycho" usual babble.

N0help4u · Aug 13, 2009, 06:07 AM

It does carry over onto the child
Some of the girls I know even call their kid
The spawn of satan and stuff.
It rarely stops at the sperm donor name

ScottGem · Aug 13, 2009, 07:17 AM

As you can see, many people object to referring to the father of your child as a "sperm donor" unless you had artificial insemination from sperm deposited in a sperm bank. Of course, in that case, you wouldn't be getting child support. You, apparently exercised poor judgment in having sex with this person.. Maybe he wasn't ready or willing to have a child. But that is no reason to refer to him so derogatorily.

Now that being said, the answer to your question is to consult a Family Law Attorney in your area. Such a lawyer will be able to tell you what requirements are necessary for the person you are "with" to adopt the child. Generally there is a requirement that you be married for a period.

Once you meet the requirements, you get the attorney to draw up the adoption petition to submit to court. The petition will include a relinquish of rights statement from the bio father.

With his agreement the judge should just grant the petition without problem.