[l8onjones]

Well I just had a phone call from her on holiday, to say if I text back she's not ignoring me she's gone for food, and we were talking and I knew it would cost her a fortune so I said ill leave you go now and she got all upset, and then I had this text

I feel unlovable, I feel exhausted, I feel no self worth, that's why I can't stay with you, I can't fall completely in love and forget the world when I feel as if its resting on my shoulders, I feel I must alter myself and my ways in order to be pretty or to fit in, when all I really want to do is stand out

There's more to come I just didn't get it all

[N0help4u]

So what are you going to do?
Feed into it or just basically tell her something like yeah you need to do something to get over your problems.
She KEEPS contacting you hoping that you will cave and feel sorry enough to say everything will be fine we'll get back together... blah, blah, blah,
She will never quit as long as she knows you will reply.

[l8onjones]

Yeah but why would she want to get back together she broke up with me?

[N0help4u]

Because she doesn't know what she wants or she wants to mess with your head.
Come out and ask her what is it you want from me. YOU broke up with me so why do you keep calling me!

[l8onjones]

I like the way you think, do you think she has mental problems? Or is just making an excuse to not be with me? At the end of the day she sis only 19 and can't have that many issues yes she has been bullied before and in both a physical and mentally abusive relationship but still

[N0help4u]

Maybe she broke up with you hoping you would run back to her and then when you didn't she realized the consequences and is trying to get you back.
I don't know if she has mental problems, emotional problems or what. If I read through it all again I might be able to figure it out some but she definitely seems to have problems that cause her to not know what she wants. Maybe her mom is making her feel she shouldn't be with you or something.

[l8onjones]

Threads merged


Basically my ex broke up with me but now won't leave me alone, we speak for a bit argue then she says to leave her alone so I do, then she complain I've left her alone, so anyway a few days after the last leave me alone text, she text me asking where did I buy her socks from.. I told her matalan, she said she'd go up the weekend to have a look, but matalan is the place I work and the weekend is the only two days she can guarantee I will be there, but why is she doing this? Ive tried the whole no contact thing, I ignore her and for about a week I have so many texts and missed calls its unbelieveable so it think its just easier to answer in the first place

Also she is now always popping up on Facebook, me and her are not friends on there but she's adding people she doesn't even know who I know so that I see she's talking to people, and she makes out as if she's fine and whatever else so why pester me?

[kctiger]

She pesters you because you continue to let it happen... ignore, ignore and keep ignoring. Change your number, block her on FB. It isn't really that hard to do. She will evenutally get the message.

[liz28]

Stop worrying about what she is doing on FB. Don't answer any more of her terxts/calls because you owe her nothing and after all she is your ex.

She likes bothering you and knows it is getting to you--don't. Change your number if you have to and ignore her if she comes to your job.

[talaniman]

Ive tried the whole no contact thing, I ignore her and for about a week I have so many texts and missed calls its unbelievable so it think its just easier to answer in the first place

Option 1- Do no contact for real, and ignore her

Option 2- Tell her to leave you alone

This is a monster of your own making because you allow it. When you stop allowing it then it stops.

The easiest thing to do is NOT always the best way to go.

[l8onjones]

So basically she's contacting me just so I answer?
But what I don't get is why the need for me to answer? She makes out she's fine and whatever and she broke up with me so why not let me be?

[l8onjones]

This whole scenario is now carrying on, apparently she has this new wonderful guy but is still running my name through the mud, saying she never loved me so on and so forth, the simple question is why?

[amicon]

Since you last posted have you stuck to NC and ignored her-if so that's probably why she s slagging you off.However don't let it bother you.Its over -dont spend time worrying about her.I hope your life s back on track.

[kctiger]

This whole scenario is now carrying on, apparently she has this new wonderful guy but is still running my name through the mud, saying she never loved me so on and so forth, the simple question is why?

The question is why do you care? So what she has poor character, quit taking the bait and caring.

[talaniman]

This whole scenario is now carrying on, apparently she has this new wonderful guy but is still running my name through the mud, saying she never loved me so on and so forth, the simple question is why?

Simple answer, because she knows what buttons to push. And wants you to know she is doing great without you. She is not the sweet little female you thought she was in the beginning. If she uses these kinds of tactics to get, and keep your attention. She is not a good person, and isn't worth time dwelling on her motives, unless you like drama that is.

Mature people see through this kind of person, and eventually, they reject them as not credible or insane. Her issues not yours, your just her focus for bad behavior. Ignore this attention seeking drama queen.

[l8onjones]

I know its been a long time but I still get urges to speak to her and such things.. it gets me down for a few days, is this normal? I don't actually get in contact with her but its at the forefront of everything I do