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    chicagotulips Posts: 14, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 28, 2009, 10:34 AM
    I love him so much. But is it time to move on?
    My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for about 2 years. When we first met we have a very intense sexual attraction to each other. He could make me climax just by touching me... we didn't even have to have sex.(And No he was not my first). We ended up splitting up at roughly the 3 month mark, and stayed separated for approximately 6 months... but with our feelings the way they were, we got back together and have been together ever since.

    When we got back together we had a lot of issues with trust, but the sexual attraction was still there.

    Well, for about the last 6 months, we haven't been having sex very much. We will play around a bit, and I'll give him oral... but it seems like he has absolutely no interest in pleasing me anymore.

    Recently, he came to me and said he didn't think he was sexually attracted to me anymore. He said he loves me more than anything, and I feel the same about him. He said he was struggling with this for a while, but couldn't figure out how we could such strong feelings for each other, but not be sexually attracted to me at all anymore.

    For a little background info, I am his longest relationship, except for his previous marriage of 4 years. Which ended when she cheated on him. We have worked out a lot of our issues, and this seems to be the only thing left.

    Please help!!
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    Jul 28, 2009, 10:35 AM

    You only need to post once
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    Jul 28, 2009, 10:38 AM
    Question... why are you emphasizing the sex so much? I didn't read one phrase in your post about love (apart from the actual word)... just about sex.

    I would run if someone told me they weren't sexually attracted to me anymore. It sounds like your so called "relationship" wasn't built on much besides hopping in the sack together.
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    Jul 28, 2009, 10:43 AM

    I love him very much. I was also married for 10 years, and I never felt this way about my husband.

    My boyfriend treats me like an equal, we can talk about anything, and we both love each others children. My kids absolutely adore him.

    The only issue we have is the sex. And this is a relatively new issue. We have talked about getting married and moving to another state... but lately all that has fallen by the wayside.

    ***Sorry about the extra post... not sure how I did that :-)
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