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    Jul 21, 2009, 06:20 PM
    Relapse on the breakup of an ex
    I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years. We had our share of good and bad times. Broke up a couple times. But she made the decision to move to Kansas, I'm in California, with her family. We ended up breaking up about 2-3 weeks before she moved. I was doing fine accepting the fact that she's moving it was going to end eventually. But almost 3 weeks ago I broke my leg playing football and for the past 2 1/2 weeks I've dreamed about her EVERY NIGHT. I feel like I'm reliving the break up all over again. She's cold and doesn't want to talk. But its been a struggle for me being stuck at home in my situation and because of the fact she was there for me in the past whenever something went wrong.. and by her not being here now is causing this relapse I believe. Any words that can be shed would be greatly appreciated.
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    Jul 21, 2009, 06:30 PM
    I think your over all situation has you down, and that's pretty normal, as not doing what you're use to doing is a real drag. You would adjust better by having something's to do at home, while you heal. How long until you can get back into your own routine?
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    Jul 21, 2009, 06:52 PM
    Its going to be about 3 months...
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    Jul 21, 2009, 06:53 PM

    Your routine is broken, therefore you are lost and confused. You have all of this empty space and free time to fill and you are filling it with thoughts of her. Fill that time with new hobbies and friends
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    Jul 21, 2009, 11:31 PM

    I tried one last time to make contact with her through a message on myspace. I did it for the fact that I cherrish the friendship and I just wanted to talk. She read the message never replyed... being cold... shes good at it. So this is no contact time. It's all I can do. She doesn't want to remain any sort of friend.. her loss

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