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MisStressed · Jul 19, 2009, 04:13 PM

Ok So I can't take it anymore! My Boyfriends mother is out of her mind!! I can't even really explain it. She is always the victim and she never does any wrong! FOr example today I went to pick up my daughter she first yells at me through the door then she brings my daughter out and has her shoes and I pick her up and she won't give me her shoes and then when I try to pick them up she Starts hollering " Don't touch me!" I ask her to stop yelling at me and she screams " I'm Not YELLING but I can start! " So I just get my daughter and I put her in the truck and She runs to the back of the fence where her husband was out back and says " See she is telling me I am yelling and then threatens to call CPS on me " ( long story there) and in a previous time before, her son asked her what channel she would like him to turn it to and she flew off the handle and started screaming and yelling and stomping around and then she started hitting her self in the chest saying she was going to smack him in the head with a frying pan. I try to keep a relationship with her for my daughter but I can't take her anymore should I just cut her completely out of our lives?? And Can her son take a mental inquest warrant out on her?:mad::confused::(

jmjoseph · Jul 19, 2009, 04:23 PM

For now, stay away from her.

MisStressed · Jul 19, 2009, 04:25 PM

Thank you for your reply!

jmjoseph · Jul 19, 2009, 04:45 PM

How old is your daughter? Tell her that you don't want your child to be around hollering, arguing, and the like. Better yet , let your boyfriend do it. It's HIS mother, and she probably wouldn't even listen to you. Tell him to let her know until she gets her emotions under control, she can't see her granddaughter. It sounds like you are at your wits end over this. Unfortunately you'll be seeing this woman for years to come. I hope you all can work things out. GOD bless you and your family.

SafeHeart · Jul 19, 2009, 06:09 PM

I agree with jmjoseph. Your daughter does not need to be around this woman. You do not want her to learn this behavior.

jenniepepsi · Jul 19, 2009, 06:33 PM

My mother in law is like this...

And sadly, yes, you may have to cut her out as I have done with my mother in law (who never sees her son nor her 'step'daugher in law, which she doesn't really care about in the first place)

Just don't put your boy friend in the position of 'its her or me' that's an impossible choice for a man to make.

If your boyfriend wants to see his daughter (I am assuming she is his, I'm sorry if I am wrong) I would suggest him coming to your place, or meeting up somewhere instead of going to his mothers house.

Good luck hon. I know how hard this situation is, and I feel for you. But you got to just stay away from her, keep your daughter away from her and let your boyfriend try to reach her. If she makes a stink on seeing your daughter, let her know that she MUST be on her best behavior. If your daughter is your boyfriends daughter, then yes, as a grandma she should see her grand daughter, however YOU are her mother and it is up to YOU who she sees and does not see (except in the case of the other parent)

jenniepepsi · Jul 19, 2009, 06:50 PM

I also forgot to mention that if your boyfriends mother is a danger to herself, or others, and your boyfriend is over 18, then yes, he has grounds to have her committed to a hospital. If this is the case, I would speak to a local mental hospital. If she becomes violent before you have a chance to do this, call the police to have her taken. (call 911 if she tries to hurt you or your child or your boyfriend or herself)

twinkiedooter · Jul 21, 2009, 07:56 PM

Unfortunately, the woman sounds like she is bipolar and no one has recognized this behavior in her. Flying off the handle over changing the channel sounds like a bipolar cycling too quickly and too often. The woman needs to see a doctor and get on some sort of meds for this. More than likely she will refuse any doctor's appointments and/or meds in the state she is in. Some states allow people to be Baker Acted. Your state maybe one of them. This way she is locked up for 3 days and observed at a mental health facility. I am sure they would diagnose her while she is there. She sounds like a person I would not want my child around due to a potential for violence against the child. Have dad visit the child elsewhere if possible out of grandma's presence. This is very stressful for a child to continually witness such horrible irrational behavior. It is not good for her emotionally and could cause her to act out at your home her frustration of what grandma's outbursts has on her. She could act out in a mimic like behavior that could prove dangerous such as throwing a frying pan at someone!