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jmooney527 · Jul 14, 2009, 07:35 AM

Originally Posted by inertia

Oh BINX4, are you ugly?? As I said there are some legitimate platonic relationships, but most guys (90%) are opportunists. Given the chance, they would console you during a fight with your boyfriend in any capacity you would allow.

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jmw0713 · Jul 14, 2009, 07:37 AM

most guys (90%) are opportunists

Yes. That's why you take that opportunity away, by becoming friends with everyone of them and do things together. Can't have an opportunity while you're around.

If things happen in one night, they would have happened anyway at some point.

Trust and Communication.

jmooney527 · Jul 14, 2009, 07:43 AM

Originally Posted by jmw0713

Yes. That's why you take that opportunity away, by becoming friends with everyone of them and do things together. Can't have an opportunity while you're around.

If things happen in one night, they would have happened anyway at some point.

Trust and Communication.

Had to spread the Rep... I totally agree. Trust and Communication are KEY.

inertia · Jul 14, 2009, 09:28 AM

Ok. 1st, I wasn't being mean to anyone, so stop using that as some sort of leverage in your argument. Seriously folks you're reaching. I asked someone I have never seen a rhetorical question to stimulate critical thinking. (This is going to take a while).

Saying trust and communication are key to a relationship is common sense, but you are also contradicting yourself. You are saying "nothing can happen when you are around" which is implying you have trust issues anyway. Running all over town meeting every acquaintance of you SO is pretty possessive. I don't have time to immerse myself in someone else's social life. Best friends and family aside, I don't spend too much time investigating my partner.

I don't hit on girls with boyfriends jmw. That's what snake-weasels do. If I develop strong feelings for a girl who is taken, I distance myself from her. I don't waste my time chasing my tail or breaking up relationships.

Of course not all guys are bad. I'm one of them, so I don't need to be told "more than I think". The simple truth is, guys like me are rare. JMW nearly admitted that he is an opportunist with this statement "If you do that, you are going to be the absentee BF that these guys love. I know you have friends that are female that you like. When her BF is around, do you act the same way with that girl when she is alone and out with you." YES, in fact I make a point of it. It's called integrity.

I'm not going to debate on this topic anymore, I'm not hijacking a thread, but your advice is ill conceived.

In closing. Don't try to impress your girlfriend's guy friends. Be yourself and let them come to you. If your girlfriend wants to hang out with a bunch of guys ALL THE TIME, I personally think it's best to move on. If it's clear that you are a priority, no harm, but those snake-weasels will be waiting for the opportunity to strike when your relationship is at its weakest, so be wary of them and other phonies that act differently around you than they do when you aren't around.

jmw0713 · Jul 14, 2009, 11:13 AM

JMW nearly admitted that he is an opportunist with this statement "If you do that, you are going to be the absentee BF that these guys love. I know you have friends that are female that you like. When her BF is around, do you act the same way with that girl when she is alone and out with you."

Not an opportunist, I'm a realist. This is reality that everyone deals with everyday. Sure you may not do that, but there are 1000 other guys out there that do. I was just pointing that out. I'm sorry about assuming things about your character. I respect that you do not do these sort of things, because I don't either.

MrBmoe11, sorry about the argument Inertia and I had. It's a very sensitive issue for both of us.

Things have already been strained between you and her. If she doesn't care enough about you to stick with you, why fight for her. Especially when she went behind your back with this guy already.

If there is any chance left, you need to talk with her, in a cool and calm manner, about this guy Brian. However, since she already asked for space (break-up) it may already be too late. It may be best to move on and walk away from these games she is playing. Whatever you do, do not let her string you along. It's not worth it.