[TheOreeoShow]

I meant stay near your age as in don't date younger ones or more than 5 years cause those usually seem to be using people that younger than them sorry for three in a row lol -Brooke

[TheOreeoShow]

well, just ask them if they want to go dancing with you? if yes, great! if not, then you know. to me it sounds like fun!

It sounds fun to me too!! Too bad you prob don't live near me haha!:(;)

[rockchick182]

Well, to be quite honest I agree with a lot of people who have answered this. It's not all about looks that attract guys. I once went out with a guy who was really skinny and had a bad attitude, and it was his attitude towards me that made me dump him. To me, its all about the personality, not the looks, although sometimes the looks can draw a girls attention to the guy, its more the peronality. I mean, if you like someone, then you like them, it doesn't matter what they look like, its how they treat you. :)

[NallaNeedsYou]

Thank you all so much... it has been a great help to hear from everyone! Its great to have a sight like this that offers support for everyone... hope I can repay you all when you need some advice! :) feeling better now.. nearly holidays and time to relax. Allan

[noone91]

Wow! Thank you so much for asking this question :) I'm like a complete copy of you when it comes to personality. We also seem to have same interests. I really like music ( I'm a drummer - not and idiot :P and a beginner guitarist ) and computer stuff :)

The thing is that I very often feel misunderstood.. I am also a calm guy and I'm a thinker ( I really don't like that since it takes me ages do decide upon simple decisions.. ). My grades though are getting worse since I'm starting to find no sense in school (don't think of me as some lazy dude.. I got to the best school in the country but I guess I'm starting to think too much about the meaning of life and I'm getting closer to the fact that school isn't everything). Girls in my class actually call me emo (I can assure you I'm not emo but that wouldn't even be a bad thing) and they most probably think I'm gay since I rather hang out with guys.

I would also like a girlfriend but for another reason - I would love it if I could give a sh*t about what the whole world would think of me but have this one person that would understand me and love me.

I am also not a well built guy.. I am skinny and not muscular at all :( I guess it would help me boost up my confidence if I did some exercises but I hate to think of that as getting closer to social standards - I would like to be myself! The dumb thing is that I don't like myself when it comes to the looks :) . I think I'm a nice person to hang out with (my good friends (male) know that) but girls at my age ( I'm 16 by the way ) don't seem to care about the personality. It's really strange because I would expect girls to be more mature in the best high school in the country...

So yeah thank you very much for asking this question again! I would also like to thank all of the people that understand NallaNeedsYou and me :) It's nice to know there are this kind of people out there. This topic gave me hope :)

Best Regards!

[NallaNeedsYou]

Im glad its not just me! I aren't really the one to advice... but there it is... 7 pages of great answers and things that should help all those of us out there lol :) just keep going and keep your head up... think about how hard other people to get to good schools.. you have the opportunity of a life time don't waste it :)

[carla55656]

Hey my name is carla I just turned fourteen I want to say that I personaly don't just go for looks I go for intellegence funny sweet and I hate to say this he can't be to bad looking
Be yourself and socialize don't for into the its all abot me mode and act sincere no don't act be I love a guy who compliment
Another thing if a girl says no move on and don't be pushy I meen don't ask her over and over again give her a break
Things will work out I promise

[onlymyself]

personally I go for looks first. It's a thing by nature I think... but I am making a difference between a perfect looking guy with a bad attitude and a good looking guy with a caring attitude =]
Things will find their way dude =]

[NallaNeedsYou]

Now that is slightly different and I think I can understand it a little better... I like this girl, she thinks I'm nice and sweet, I make her laugh and we are planning to go and see a film etc but she says she hasn't been out with the boys she has been asked out by because she doesn't like them like that. Any ideas what I'm aiming to be?

[HelpinHere]

Well, are YOU going to consider this a date?

It's important to know where you stand, because you don't want one of you thinking this of as a date, and the other just thinking it's just a friendly hang out.

I'm under the impression that this will be a first date.

Well, if I read what you posted and understood it in the way that you intended, then she basically told you she DOES like you back.
Don't try to do anything either of you is comfortable with. Just hang out, watch the movie, enjoy it, and enjoy each other. If anything more needs doing, it will come naturally.

Good Luck

[valleywalley]

Well,
I can't speak for all girls but I would probibly want a smart guy. Not all of us care about looks.
Just be yourself. That should do the trick.

PS. Remember also do not be afraid to show amotion :o:):(:confused::mad::p

[Katt1997]

Well, I'm smart, and I've dated someone who is dumb, and it really puts a downer on things. But my current boyfriend is smart, and that is 1 of the things that made me want to date him.
In your case, you say you are smart, so there must be someone out there that is smart and admires that in you. Maybe she is too shy. DON'T be afraid to make a move. That's a big mistake some boys make that are shy.
Observe how girls act towards you. If you're in class, be aware if any girls are staring or something like that. It MIGHT mean that they are into you or at least checking you out.
Don't worry. Someday you'll find someone :-)

[tntdynamite]

You're only 14, so it's not that big of a deal if you haven't had your first kiss yet.
I'm a girl and let me tell you what I look for in a guy. I'm not going to lie, looks do help. It's what attracts us to a person in the first place, so it's not shallow saying that looks play a part. But at the same time, they aren't everything. I've met some extremely hot guys that I want nothing to do with because they're stupid, immature, mean and cocky. But anyway, I also like a guy who's smart, funny, nice, sensitive, respectful, and confident. That's what most girls look for, but usually they only act on it later in life, girls can be just as blind and shallow as guys. Any girl who determines whether she'll go out with you by your looks, is not worth your time. You seem like a really nice, smart, mature guy, someone any girl would be lucky to have. Just give yourself some more credit, don't be so hard on yourself, confidence can be way more attractive then looks. I've liked guys that other people say are really ugly, but it's just the energy they put off that draws me in, even if they aren't exactly "hot". Best of luck to you.
P.S. If it helps, I'm 15 and still haven't had my first kiss yet. ;)

[jenniepepsi]

This may have been said already but I didn't read it. So sorry if I am repeating someone.


See... the thing is, at 14, teens are very shallow and superfisial (didnt spell that right) only interested in the popular, hunky hot guys.

But see, when you become an adult, and when you ARE ready for a girlfriend, you will see that adult women, once they mature, are much more interested in the smart, polite, gentle guys who can offer security and kindness.

So keep your head up and don't worrei too much at this point :) just relax and have fun hanging out with your friends.

[soulslayer09]

If I'm repeating anybody sorry...

Ummm I'm 14 about to be 15 next month and I've always hung around girls whether my age or not and I know that it really isn't about that. Girls are people too and they want to be comfortable around you. Right now I'm going into my sophomore year and I like this girl and were good friends I've known her for like 2 yrs. If you ever like a girl don't rush at things either because you want girlfriend... trust me your time will come every girl doesn't hate you... im actually one of those athletic boys even though I'm not tall and muscular but I am friends with so many girls..

[bexxx]

It seems most the girls you've been trying to get are all es anyway :) What most kind, honest, non-shallow girls look for is what you have. For me and most my friends (I don't know for everyone else out there) intelligence (only because me and my friends are exceptionally smart), Personal hygiene, Average looks, Manners, Maturity, Sensitivity, Kindness, and individuality. What isn't attractive is that attitude of im-too-cool-for-this, An obssession of how good your six pack is, acting stupid around your friends, being overly rude, and I'm sure you can figure out the rest for yourself. Any decent girl who is good enough to be your girlfriend shouldn't care whether you have a six pack or not. Right now, I'm in love with a guy who's an inch and a half shorter than me, has a body like a bean pole etc but he is a beautiful person, and is beautiful in my eyes, even though he isn't in most people's. Someone will notice you and fall in love with you, if you are a nice person. So just remember that your clearly waaay to good for all those skanky girls who just want a guy with a six pack, wait for the right girl who loves you for who you are, not for how you look. I know you've probably heard this all before, but it's the truth. Xx

[tic-tac]

I'm a girl myself and what i look for in a guy is a good personality(not too smart,not too dumb) and also something that he has in common with me.
and his eyes are a main thing for me, if he doesn't have cute
looking eyes then i won't like him.

Always keep in mind that all girls look for different things in guys.


Hope I've helped! :)

[dirty harry]

Man when I was 14 (i'm 31 now) I was maybe 5 feet tall weighed 90 pounds soaking wet with rocks in my pocket and glasses that were to big for my face. So of course when girls first met me there was no interest but once they got to know me their feelings changed.

You have to be confident that is the main things. People can tell when you don't have confidence Stand up straight, Look people in the eye when you talk to them. Don't be afraid to just start a conversation with girls. But don't start the conversation thinking I need to date this girl. Start the conversation by just wanting to get to know the person. It is hard I am not going to lie to you but if I did it you can!!!!

Could not agree more
Try out new things do the things you never done before and try to act like a teenager not a mature person time will come when you have to act like a adult
Take care

[EssenceX123]

Its not right to judge someone from the look, its wrong and stupid, people have to understand that people have personalities, and I no that inside of you is a nice gentle and awesome person every girl would be lucky to have, maybe you should show what you are really, so just be honest, don't fake.. ever! And most important be yourself, just be U, thts all I got, best luck for u.

[cal823]

Don't worry mate, my first kiss (was in a dare) was last year, and I am turning 18 in August this year.
Just be yourself. At some point certain girls will be naturally attracted to you. No need to seek it out.
I have never only had very few girls attracted to me, but in the last few weeks girls seem to have changed their outlook towards me and started to seem more interested. No need to worry about it at all, just be you and don't give finding a girlfriend much thought, these things just happen, you don't plan it out.
Also, some advice that everyone in the world should be taught in school.
Shoulders straight.
Head up, eyes forward.
Back straight, no slouching.
Be confident, be yourself.
Think before you speak.
That will help a lot. No girls going to take notice of you in a good way if you are slouching in the corner.