Oh my... this is just like having a 20 something who won't work and may be with you forever.
Would you like her to stay living with you, even if she was working? If not, give her a time limit... maybe say it in a way that makes it more that you are looking out for her interests. "Mom, I know it has been difficult for you living her with all of our stuff all over, maybe you would find it easier and more comfortable if you had your own place....I'd be happy to help you look if you would like". This could, however, backfire and she might so that she is perfectly happy staying with you.
You could tell her that you have been happy to have been in a position to help her out, but now that you are out of work and back at school, hubby is getting exhausted working three jobs and you guys just can't swing it for much longer. Again, letting her know that you would be happy to help her find a place... near by even. Point out that it would help you guys out, and that she would still be close by but would be able to have her own place.
Check first.. no health concerns for her that keeps her from working or living on her own? If you don't mind her staying, let her know that because you are out of work and such, you really need her to help you guys out now that she is able to.
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