[bc472556]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little while now and we haven't had sex yet. We both are not virgins but to me I can live with out sex I don't need it to make our relationship any stronger. I'm in love with him with out sex. I know he loves me too and he has never even asked me to have sex with him cause he wants me to be ready. Its not like I'm not ready to have sex with him I just want to look classy and not come off easy, What is the normal time frame when successful couples normally become sexually active?

[Alty]

There is no "normal" time frame. It depends on the couple, on the individuals, their beliefs, a lot of things.

Some people actually wait until marriage to have sex, even if they've been dating for years, other people have sex on their first date.

You have to talk to him about this, we can't make this decision for you.

Good luck.

[Nestorian]

Yeah, defining "normal" is like trying to explain what a soul/spirit/ghost is.

Trying to do things so others see you one way or another, is not recommended. You can only saticfy yourself, but please do be mindful that others are around you. So, be happy yourself, but don't rubb it in peoples faces, that's class.

Self Respect, respect for others.

When you are ready, you'll know, as some are never ready. Ever hear of the just married couple from japan that were to shy for sex, then one night they had some wine and well they both had heart attacks. can u die from havin sex? It was on that show Urban Legends. Not sure how true it is though?

Peace be with you.

[redhed35]

Hey I'm 36 and started a new relationship 2 months ago,we have known each other for nearly a year before we started dating.. we have not had sex yet, but have talked about it,contraception,previous relationships etc.
Were both enjoying this part of the relationship and building a good friendship,my point is,talk to each other,talk about sex and its implications to your relationship.. when the time is right you will both be ready.

[jmjoseph]

If it's no big deal then why rush? The Bible says that the RIGHT time is after marriage. I'd be a liar if I said I waited, but as you've stated, neither of you are virgins, but you can save this special moment for your wedding night. Good luck and GOD bless you.

[nikosmom]

If you're satisfied with this phase, I don't see the need to jump into the next phase. Enjoy this because once you move on to the sexual part then you can't go back to this stage. As the others have said, none of us here can answer that question for you. It's a matter of when you both are ready to move forward and your comfort level with the relationship.

[griffers90]

Like the others said only you know how long is long enough. I personally have not set myself a minimum level but have decided to judge it on how comfortable I am with my partner. It has kept me happy so far! Please just go with what feels right if you have any doubts then the time is just not right for you even if those doubts are about apearing easy. When the time is right you won't even consider that.

[liz28]

What do you mean by "Its not like i'm not ready to have sex with him I just want to look classy and not come off easy?"

How are you going come off as easy if the two of you are already in a committed relationship? And love each other? What you mean by looking classy? Are you talking about sexy nighties?

I think your ready for the relationship to move to the next phrase but afraid of making the first move because some how you think it would make you look easy. Don't think that way and it is okay to make the first move.

[Gemini54]

If you're wondering whether it's the right time yet - then it's not the right time.

Trust your intuition, you'll know when you're ready.

I think it's nice to wait. Listen to what he's telling you - he'll wait until you're ready.

[bc472556]

Thanks you guys have given me great advice and you are all very right. I'm very worried about it and me being awkward which means I am not 100% comfortable and ready. I guess I'm just worried cause with my last "serious" boyfriend when I didn't put out he started getting it from someone else but I have realized I have to trust thisguy cause I do love him and I know its not about sex he loves me for me so thanks guys.