[Kebogani]

Recently I discovered that my best friend is dating my girlfriend for the past 3years.Since she come my way I have never slept with her because I told her we should be in a relationship then there after we can marry each other,unfortunately she has done it with my best fried.I really love her very much since she is my first love now I don't know what to do to get her back.pliz help.

Geoffrey.

[88sunflower]

Oh you poor thing. I am sure you love her but do you think she is feeling the same thing? She hasn't had sex with you but is with your friend, whom she has been seeing 3 years? Did I read that right? Why do you want to keep her around.

[scott_1976]

You don't want her back trust me. She cheated on you and if that wasn't bad enough she did it with your best friend! You need to ditch them both! Both of them showed with their actions that they don't care about you and they are not worth wasting your time! You deserve to have yourself surrounded by people who love and respect you, people you can trust. Your GF and best friend proved they are not trust worthy! It's painful but the best thing you can do now is cut them both out of your life as fast as possible. I have been in the same situation as you except I was married at the time and my wife slept with my best friend!

[TheOreeoShow]

If she did it with your best friend but you still "want to get her back" that's messed up. You should both have something to offer each other. If you love her and she cheated on you with your best friend she obviously doesn't feel the same way toward you. In other words she wouldn't care to hurt you or ruin a good freindship of yours. You need to think about if its really worth it (even if you do love her) to go after a girl that doesn't love you and might hurt you again. And is that guy really still your best friend after he hurt you in that same way? You will find another love. Someone worth loving that loves you back and would NOT treat you this way because she would never do anything to hurt you on purpose. Also maybe a new best friend.

You need a girl that doesn't need a sexual relationship until after marriage also

[88sunflower]

Not to mention if she is going to cheat with your best friend, you think she won't cheat with whoever else? Please.

[scott_1976]

Not to mention if she is going to cheat with your best friend, you think she wont cheat with whoever else?? Please.

To save yourself heartache you have to assume "once a cheater always a cheater!"

[liz28]

Wait a second, is she your current girlfriend or an ex girlfriend? I ask because you wrote "if enter a relationship with you you marry her". To that I say "what"?

If she is your current girlfriend then marriage shouldn't even be on your mind. Dump the girl and get a new friend because what kind of friend is he for sleeping with your ex?

Also, if this girl is an ex he shouldn't be dating his friend left overs in the first place. And if you knew they were dating for the last 3 years you should've been remove yourself from this situation.

[I wish]

You don't really need advice. All you need to do is dump her and find a new best friend.

She cheated on you for 3 years. How in the world can you still trust her or your best friend?

[N0help4u]

Sounds like he was your best friend so he could see her more.
As the others have said you do not want her back. For whatever reasons she was cheating on you and I can guarantee... 3 yrs with your best friend... she could not have been in love with you or she wouldn't have done this to you.

[chancelord]

Well, it seems to me that you love her but she is not loving you back. Let's just think this out, OK? Not just because she had sexual intercourse with your best friend it means that she loves him, sometimes it can be done for pleasure. Now, do you think you give her all she needs? Did you ask her to have sexual intercourse with you? Are you giving her that pleasure she feels like she needs? Well, if you want her back that badly you've got to show her that you are better than your friend, because if you do so, she might come back to you.

[liz28]

Chancelord I guess you don't mind if your girlfriend has sex with your best friend.

Your advice was was not needed on this thread and it so wonder why you have so many reddies. Don't ever give someone advice.

[jmjoseph]

Keb, Your "friend" is no FRIEND, this girl is sour fruit that need not be picked. Move along and enjoy your life.

[letmetellu]

Recently i discovered that my best friend is dating my gf for the past 3years.Since she come my way i have never slept with her because i told her we should be in a relationship then there after we can marry each other,unfortunately she has done it with my best fried.i really love her very much since she is my first love now i don't know what to do to get her back.pliz help.

Geoffrey.

You should have said that my EX best friend is having an affair with my EX girl friend.

[talaniman]

Leave them both alone, and get some better friends, and a new girlfriend.

[taoplr]

Kebogani,one big question needs to be answered: Did they hook up while you and she were still together? Were they seeing each other for three years, or was she your girlfriend for three years, and they connected afterward? If she cheated on you, I agree with these folks who are telling you to dump both of them, and would like to add the suggestion that you look into yourself and ask "What does it say about me that I am willing to get back with her after she did something so stupid and selfish?" She might be your first love, but how can you trust her? Yes, she will do it again.

If they got together after you and she had split up, she owes you nothing, but it is still cowardly of your best friend not to tell you. Unless he is deeply in love, and she is "The One," he has no business complicating your lives by dating her. I suggest that you look him in the eye and ask him what stopped him from telling you, and what he thinks that says about him and about your friendship. If he owns up and takes responsibility, you might recognize that they didn't cheat; they just hid.

In that case, he might have been a coward, but he didn't betray you. If you feel strongly about the relationship between you and him, it might be in your interest to patch up this friendship. It's not that people make mistakes; it's about what they do when they discover that they have made a mistake. From this experience, both you and he can deepen yourselves and learn how to cope better with the complexities of life.

If you keep your friendship, you would be wise to set up some ground rules about what is, and is not, OK in situations like this in the future. If those rules are clear and agreed upon, you have a right to expect him to stick by them, and he has the same right with you.

Keep in mind that holding a grudge sickens the body, and forgiving opens the heart and mind. You will be happier when you let this go. Let it all go.

Tao

[DANNiix_]

Too be honest he's not a friend really is he; if he's with her.
You don't need her babe. Everyone falls in love at one point or another and you will find love again. You just need to let this one go. Nobody should be put through what you have been put through. Seriously babe; go and find yourself a better one.
And as for your friend well he must not care as much as a friend would you need to let him go to trust me life will get better it just takes time :) xx

[sweet1028]

You can't always expect to be with you first love for the rest of your life. I mean really what kind of friend does that. If one of my friends did that to me they would be dropped because they wasn't a real friend anyway. And my guy having sex with my best friend isn't worth wanting. I wouldn't want him if he was the last man on earth if he done tha that to me. Find a new woman, one that will treat you right. Good luck in life.

[raychi]

Sure you might love her, but maybe she doesn't know that. Tell her and then say that you want her to be YOURS. Not your best friends. Tell her that though you love her, you can't stay with some one that breaks your heart.

[samuelobih]

She's a prostitute in disguise , ditch her and move on with your life, is not always easy but u gats be a man.