[dark_alley]

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about two and a half years, and our sex life is good, (it varies) However, for the past few months I've started to become more and more curious about other women (my girlfriend wasn't my first partner, but it is by far the longest relationship I've had) and recently she has confessed that she also has a curiosity about other men. (She also has had a previous partner, but such as myself, our relationship has been her longest relationship.) Is this a bad sign or is it something that works itself out? We are both young (I'm 22 she is 21) and I have thought of taking a break, but I wouldn't be able to come back from a break after sleeping with another girl and try to act "normal." Likewise, if she did the same it would not sit right with me. Sometimes I feel like we should just get it out of our system and when I have talked about it with her, she says it would be okay with her (but not in a serious tone)

[ChihuahuaMomma]

It sounds as if neither of you have sown your wild oats. If this becomes a big issue, then I would suggest splitting up and living your life. Perhaps you will come together again at a later date. I have tons of married friends that broke up years ago and got back together in the past few years and then gotten married.

[mudweiser]

In my opinion. It's because you are still young and curious about what else life has to offer- which is normal.

I believe it is time for the relationship "talk". Where you talk about:
-Your feelings towards each other
-Your current goals
-Analyze where both of you stand
-How your relationship has been, and where is it going.

The talk isn't always the best but it really cuts through the BS.

My suggestion to you is, do the talk, see where you both stand.

Would an open relationship be an option for you both [a.k.a swinging] OR will you both split ways OR stay together and "fight through it".

It's ultimately your choice on how you want to spend the rest of the year, or maybe the rest of your life. If your unhappy now, chances are you'll be unhappy later.

Just a thought.

Sara

[griffers90]

Hmmm have you two ever thought about sexual experimentation? If you are getting really curious about other women it could be that the sex has become very sameish. Try different positions / role playing or even (not to everyone's taste and I am not condoning cheating) bringing another person into the sex? If you wish to do the latter you two must really talk and make sure to use a condom. Maybe try surprising her with some sexy new lingerie that you'd like to see her in spice things up! Don't just get bored of each other if you love each other!

[dark_alley]

Thanks for the advice everybody, and yes we have experimented and it helped a lot. :-) I just graduated from college and I seem to have more questions than ever, and the question I asked seems to be the most confusing to me. But you have all given me something to think about, thanks.

[griffers90]

Glad to hear it's all working for you now hun x