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    #21

    Jun 1, 2009, 05:41 PM

    Sounds like she is confused, and needs time to heal and sees you as a good future boyfriend, and great current friend. So be there for her while she heals and gets herself together. Be her shoulder and best friend, and that will show her that you are serious and want to be with her, and can be a good boyfriend and friend.
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    #22

    Jun 1, 2009, 05:45 PM

    How long ago was her breakup?

    She's just realizing that you're a rebound. Give her time and space to figure out her confusion before you move forward.
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    #23

    Jun 1, 2009, 05:48 PM

    So I mean should I initiate conversation by texts or calls or just wait for her to initiate things? I haven't talked to her all day today, which is hard enough because now I've developed these feelings for her and have trouble not thinking about her and what makes me more confused is that she was the one that approached me and has been eager in being together and spending a lot of time together
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    #24

    Jun 1, 2009, 05:53 PM

    I would text a small message at the end of the day a good night text or thinking of you.but while your going through this you need to take this time to keep yourself busy.dude it's the old saying and I can't believe I'm using it but if you love someone set them free if they come back it was meant to be.we don't know if she's breaking up in a nice way or whatever she just plainly said I need some space,give it to her
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    Jun 1, 2009, 06:03 PM

    Right, that's the what I was planning on doing. I don't know if it's a bad thing, but during the conversation I told her I wasn't going to be waiting around forever and that I was going to miss her. She told me she wasn't going any where and that I'm everything she wants in a boyfriend I just don't know. I figure she will come after me if she is being honest with everything she is telling me.
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    #26

    Jun 1, 2009, 07:26 PM

    Just tell her how you feel (i.e. how much you care about her and that you want a relationship with her) and that you would give her whatever time and space she needs to figure things out.

    Then she will look for you when she's ready.
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    #27

    Jun 2, 2009, 03:33 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by helpmeout58 View Post
    She told me she wasnt going any where and that im everything she wants in a boyfriend
    Well there you go you shouldn't have anything to worry about
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    #28

    Jun 2, 2009, 08:47 PM

    After reading your whole story, maybe you have moved to fast, and are smothering her. I would try backing off, and balancing your life with other things besides her. My gosh man, you can't be with someone every second, or stop the rest of your life to be with her.

    Too much, to fast, crash and burn. Don't take the fun out of it by being to needy.

    Its only been two months.
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    #29

    Jun 3, 2009, 08:25 PM

    Call her Saturday morning. Not too early. Like 11, or maybe even 12. Have a good chat and maybe a spur of the moment idea of a date for the evening may arise? :)

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