[Jayjay2009]

I am dating this guy whom I really like, but we don't have anything in common. Honestly I don't see how he can have anything in common with anybody because he doesn't really have a personality. I am the type of girl who can talk to anyone about anything. To me, conversation is the key to any good relationship. I don't understand why he has trouble communicating with me or anybody else. I guess he is just not the type of person who likes to talk. Don't get me wrong, he is a very nice guy, but sometimes I feel like there's nothing there between us. We are like the total opposite of , I am a funny outgoing, talkative and I love to have intelligent conversations with people, but he is like so quiet, he don't like to talk, half of the time he don't intelligent what I'm talking about and has no sense of humor. I don't want to stop totally talking to him, but I really need to know what shall I do, is it a way I can change that about him or what..

[dudevill]

If he doesn't talk to people a lot, and he doesn't talk to you a lot, trying to change that would be like trying to change his personality. Unless he experiences some kind of personality disorder where he retreats from his social life, there's not much you can do. Try talking to him about how you feel about the relationship.
If you really want to stay with him, there should be communication, but you can't expect him to change so drastically.
If you feel that you have nothing in commn and you guys just don't connect, then it's probably your best bet to just break it off and remain friends.
I don't know your whole situation, but relationships like that usually fade out eventually.

[I wish]

Sounds like you already answered all the questions yourself. Why trap yourself in such a torturous relationship. Why settle for something less than what you want? Wouldn't you be better off finding someone who you can have a conversation with?

[talaniman]

If its not what you want, then stop dating.

[Jayjay2009]

I appreciate your replies a lot thanks!

[teastalk]

I agree with the previous posters. It's difficult to change a person, and in a relationship you shouldn't feel like you need to change them. It seems like you made your decision already, although I do feel like time, similar experiences, and having fun together should increase commonalities. However, the conversation thing is a HUGE problem. If he always just says, "yes, no, uh huh, maybe, sometime, we'll see," I don't see a future in that.

[Gemini54]

but I really need to know what shall I do, is it a way I can change that about him or what..

First piece of advice - NEVER go into a relationship believing you should/can change the other person.

It doesn't work - people only change when they want to.

Find someone that likes to talk and shares your interests.

End of advice.

[liz28]

I understand you likes him but the two of you have nothing in common. I heard opposites attract but it isn't the case here and you should never cheat yourself nor settle.

[hoping4best130]

Hi.

From your post I see there are a lot of "i" stated over and over again. Relationships are about "us" not I or he.

Also one doesnot enter into a relationship with pre determined aims to change the other person. Accept the other person as he or she is let them be who they are and be yourself slowly and gragually you both with adopt yourself to suit the likes and dislikes of each other. How whould you feel if you know that this guy wants you to change a bit and be a bit quite etc.

In short look at all his qualities and weaknesses. If you are able to live with his weaknesses tag along. Other wise I suggest you move on.

[roxypox]

I agree with the others and Tals advice is short and true!

If you have nothing in common and if he is not what you want then stop dating and move on.

To go into a relationship with the idea that you can change someone is not a good start anyway, and not worth the hassle. He is what he is and he doesn't seem to suit you ;)

Best of luck!

Roxy