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Romefalls19 · May 7, 2009, 06:51 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

And then, when you do come up with an idea, they respond with, "No, I don't want to do that." Then what in the fu** do you want to do???

Or I love that in an argument at a later date they use this "we ALWAYS do what you want to do" That's because you are so fracking indecisive that I always have to think of things to do

talaniman · May 7, 2009, 07:00 AM

Then she texted me to tell me goodnight and once again I did not respond. Im going NC again until she makes up her mind what she wants.

Go No Contact until you get your own life in order without her.

Its obvious she will not invite you back in her life, but wants the benefits of you being in her life.

Makes no sense wasting time, waiting for her to make up her mind, to give you what you want.

jmw0713 · May 7, 2009, 07:01 AM

^^LOL. KC and Rome you know where I'm coming from with this.

They are never able to make up their minds, even about little trivial things.

That is why when you wait, you wait forever.

Romefalls19 · May 7, 2009, 07:05 AM

Yea no kidding! This is why I dedicated the song "Waiting on a woman" by brad Paisley to my fiancé

Lonelyandbroken · May 7, 2009, 07:30 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

or I love that in an argument at a later date they use this "we ALWAYS do what you want to do" That's because you are so fracking indecisive that I always have to think of things to do

OMG nail on the head. Yeah I got that line. You always do what you want. We don't do what I want. I asked every freaking week what she wanted to do. And all I ever got was I don't know or I don't care. I'm not a mind reader. That crap really burns my butt.

Romefalls19 · May 7, 2009, 07:35 AM

JTs, sorry we high jacked your thread

She yells at me because I don't know what I want for dinner, whatever I pick she usually says "I don't know" which really means "I don't want that" so it's easier to let her decide and I will just eat whatever. I can't read your mind, so just write down what you want to do and we will do that to avoid an argument in which you bring up that we never do what you want in the future.

jmw0713 · May 7, 2009, 08:10 AM

Actually Rome... we are just giving him real life examples on why he should not wait on a decisive answer from this girl.

YeloDasy · May 7, 2009, 11:12 AM

Ok, I HAVE to respond... my boyfriend and I have this running joke.

He hated it when I would say I didn't care whatever he wanted to do was fine. He said it makes it sound like I don't care at all and he wants to know I am excited. So now I say... "whatever you choose will be equally fun!!" hahahaha
Sometimes I really DO NOT HAVE A PREFERENCE. Now, I just come up with a few ideas for him to help. It'sn ow a joke for us...
BUt great conversation on this thread!

YeloDasy · May 7, 2009, 11:19 AM

ANd JT, she sounds confused, selfish right now. She knows she hurt you and the relationship and she wants to hear from you that its okay and you miss her. When she is not getting that, she says something sarcastic to make you feel bad. But in reality you sound very angry that she changed your life. Even if you have a friendship you will have to have this conversation and get to a place where you can be. Right now, it does not sound like you want that, and I don't know if a relationship would be healthy at this time. You sound like a caring guy, any girl will be lucky to have a chance to date you...

JTS31708 · May 7, 2009, 03:39 PM

Thanks.. Im just going to start NC again even though I'm already healed I'm just trying to get this whole mess over with when she figures out what she wants is when I will talk but until then I am not meeting her up anymore.

If she starts talking to me on aim or in a text what should I respond back to her?

cozyk · May 7, 2009, 03:57 PM

Originally Posted by JTS31708

Thanks.. Im just going to start NC again even though im already healed im just trying to get this whole mess over with when she figures out what she wants is when i will talk but until then i am not meeting her up anymore.

If she starts talking to me on aim or in a text what should i respond back to her?

Only if you want to prolong the aggravation and agony. Why do you care what she "decides she wants?" Will you go back to her if she wants to get back together?

Pokerface5 · May 7, 2009, 03:57 PM

Aww well I mean all girls need to have some fun but just because she wanted a break doesn't mean she wants one forever. I think that she needed to just think things over and have a little fun with her friends. Me and my boyfriend went through the same thing but we worked it all out so I'm sure that you guys will be just fine :) good luck with everything!

JTS31708 · May 7, 2009, 04:36 PM

If she wanted to come back I wouldn't take her right away I would make sure its what we both want "especially her" and we work together to make it happen because it takes 2 to be in a relationship. I would take it slow to see how things go.

Thanks for all of the advice so far!

cozyk · May 7, 2009, 04:58 PM

I'm afraid you would take her back in a New York minute. I also don't think you are over her. I wish you were. I do think you are better than you were in the beginning, just not totally over her.. I just think you both are too young to be taking any relationship very seriously. Have fun, be care free, and take care of your heart. I know, easier said than done. We have all been there. That is why I tell you this stuff. It's called experience. I really do wish you well.

bswc · May 7, 2009, 07:01 PM

JTS nice work! I was reading your early posts in the thread telling that you're the one treating her the best of all the bf's she have. That time, she have the POWER over u. Now you've go NC which u hesitated earlier and YOU are having SO MUCH POWER over her! Glad to see it happen brother... if u want to help this relationship, its HER that needs some working out and brain wash :)

The sad part is it can't be through u as some people just can't digest what their mate says when it comes to some important stuffs :)

JTS31708 · May 7, 2009, 09:37 PM

Today was my dads birthday and she didn't know, until she went on my aim and saw that it was. So now I know that she basically checks up on my away messages to see what I'm doing or see if anything new is going on. Im still doing NC as of yesterday again so she can make her decision and make up her mind. This still isn't over yet ill keep you all posted when I find out something but until then. Im enjoying my life =] How is everyone else?

kctiger · May 8, 2009, 05:18 AM

Originally Posted by JTS31708

Today was my dads birthday and she didnt know, until she went on my aim and saw that it was. So now i know that she basically checks up on my away messages to see what im doing or see if anything new is going on. Im still doing NC as of yesterday again so she can make her decision and make up her mind. This still isnt over yet ill keep you all posted when i find out something but until then. Im enjoying my life =] How is everyone else??

Well, don't know about everyone else, but me? I am on top of the world baby!! Hope you are truly enjoying your life. I have been "single" for awhile now, and I got to tell you, it is freaking awesome!! Happy Friday dude!

Romefalls19 · May 8, 2009, 05:28 AM

I am doing pretty good, going through some stuff with my fiance's ex husbands family but that's never anything new.

jmw0713 · May 8, 2009, 05:56 AM

I'm recovering from the baseball game last night. I'm a little tired but hanging in there. I need to wake up some how so I can do it all over again!!

kctiger · May 8, 2009, 06:00 AM

A key to waking up = A large Vanilla Iced Coffee from McDonalds. It is perfection in a cup. I no longer need a $6 cup of, whatever the hell it is from Starbucks...