[JTS31708]

Yea that's true I see what you all are saying. Well she wants to meet up because she is crazy about seeing me again and wants to talk and see me since its been almost 2 months since we have seen each other either tomorrow or Thursday she wants to meet up the only thing is I don't know how to go about it I agreed to seeing her I just don't know what to say because for me there is nothing to say I don't know it just feels awkward in a way.. I want her to make up her mind so I can get this over with its either we get back and try it again and work together or I will just tell her look I think its best if we don't talk I'm sorry but it just can't work

[JTS31708]

Its just all confusing how she can't make up her mind she let me go because she wanted to have fun "more fun" by hanging out with her friends and not have a boyfriend but out of nowhere when I tell her look I need time by myself she gives me a week and starts getting sad because she wants to see me and talk to me so bad she said she can't stand it anymore. I don't get it I thought that's what she wanted she wanted to make herself a lot more happy and now she is seeing it as o maybe I made a mistake and took him for granted either way I just want this to be over with either we get back or we don't see each other anymore.

Thank you all for listening

[JTS31708]

She wants to meet up today at her job she wants to see me bad. I don't know what to say though when I go in I guess ill keep the conversation short but I don't know what's going to happen any advice what I should do?

Thanks

[cozyk]

She wants to meet up today at her job she wants to see me bad. I dont know what to say though when i go in i guess ill keep the convo short but i dont know whats going to happen any advice what i should do?

Thanks

Why don't you just say, why did you want to see me? When she answers, go from there.

[JTS31708]

Why don't you just say, why did you want to see me? When she answers, go from there.

She said she wants to see me because it drives her crazy that we haven't spoke or seen each other for a month and a half. Every time she would text or call I would either ignore it or reply with a response of one to two words. That's the whole reason she wants to see me and its all because she doesn't know what she wants again. So I don't know what to really say when I go in there. =[ This is going to be awkward! Lol

[kctiger]

She said she wants to see me because it drives her crazy that we havent spoke or seen eachother for a month and a half. Everytime she would text or call i would either ignore it or reply back with a response of one to two words. Thats the whole reason she wants to see me and its all because she doesnt know what she wants again. So i dont know what to really say when i go in there. =[ This is going to be awkward! lol

Take a microphone and earpiece to said meeting, hook it up so I can hear, and I will direct your conversation for you. Less stress for you and a guaranteed good outcome for you. Or, entertaining at the least.

[JTS31708]

Take a microphone and earpiece to said meeting, hook it up so I can hear, and I will direct your conversation for you. Less stress for you and a gauranteed good outcome for you. Or, entertaining at the least.

Lmaoo hahaha I would if I could I really just want to hear what she has to say. Im meeting her at her job in about an hour or so. Its either we work things out, or it will be a sad day when I tell her look its not going to work out us being friends maybe one day in the future we can.

But other then that it just feels awkward and not sure what to say I hope she doesn't expect me to talk first lol

[Romefalls19]

The first conversation is always awkward, it's filled with weird silences and out of place laughs

[JTS31708]

The first conversation is always awkward, it's filled with weird silences and out of place laughs

That is very true but to me I feel like there is nothing I should have to say at all I'm not the one who did all of this to make us end up like this. I just want to hear what she has to say and go from there.

[YeloDasy]

Im new to this thread, I would love to know the outcome. You have come a long way in the past 2 months!

[JTS31708]

Ill let you all know what happens when I get back I'm leaving in about 30 min! This is going to be one hell of a day lol

[JTS31708]

Any last advice?? =]

[YeloDasy]

Don't make any big decisions today!! That's my last advice! Just listen, take it in... no decisions.

[JTS31708]

Update: Just got back from talking with her. Just like I thought it would be awkward she would ask normal things that she knew the answer to already just to keep a conversation going. It had a lot of quiet moments in it because I wanted to see what she had to say. Rome you were right about the strange laughter that would occur lol. To me though it didn't benefit me in any way. Im already over her I just want her to make up her mind already, either we work it out together and try again or we don't talk at all. Thanks everyone for their advice this deffiantely isn't over yet.

She texted me about 20 min later saying "It was lovely seeing you!" I didn't respond back because I don't know what I should say to it. I can't say I felt the same knowing she is the one who gave up on our relationship.

What should I respond to that or should I just leave it alone?

[cozyk]

Leave it alone. Why wait on her to make up her mind? You make up YOUR mind. If you are already over her why care about if she wants to work it out or not?

[JTS31708]

That's true I just want to know what she wants to do so I can get this over with. Either work it out and get back or stop talking with each other for good

[JTS31708]

Tonight she texted me saying "It was lovely seeing you!" I didn't respond because I can't say I felt the same waay I was there to hear what she had to say. So then she texted back saying it again I finally responded simply "good seeing you to" she wrote back like 5 min later saying "Mhmm i bet.."
So after that I left it alone because I wasn't getting into any arguments or nothing like that. Then she texted me to tell me goodnight and once again I did not respond. Im going NC again until she makes up her mind what she wants.

Thanks again for everyone's advice

[jmw0713]

Sounds to me like you are putting your life on hold, while waiting for her to make up her mind. If you do this, she will know you will always be there and therefore take you feelings for granted.

Let me tell you one thing... women are always confused about something. Have you ever asked a woman "What do you want to do tonight?"? What is the typical response??

"I don't know. What do you want to do?"

See a lot of women, especially young ones never know what they want and are so indecisive they just go along with whatever.

If you are waiting for this girl to make up her mind, you will be waiting for a LONG TIME.

Another example, when women get ready to go out, they like to get all dressed up. So they will pick out an outfit, try it on and then find something wrong with it and try on something else. Then usually they find something else wrong with that one and either try on something else, or GO BACK to what they tried on before and settle for that. How long does that process take? Forever, because they can't make up their mind. (3 hours at least and that's just deciding what to wear!)

Are you going to be the outfit that she goes back to and settles for? Are you going to wait while she tries other outfits (ie: other guys) on before she makes up her mind and settles on something?? Are you going to wait around for her to make up her mind?

I hope you learn to answer "No" to all of these, because I think your leaning toward "yes".

Good luck with waiting.

[Romefalls19]

Ah! I hate asking my fiancé what she wants to do tonight, she always pulls that response!

[kctiger]

Ah! I hate asking my fiance what she wants to do tonight, she always pulls that response!

And then, when you do come up with an idea, they respond with, "No, I don't want to do that." Then what in the fu** do you want to do??