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May 5, 2009, 01:34 PM
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Wanted ToTake Things Slow - She Moved On TO a 60 Year-Old Man.
I recently began talking to a woman at a local coffee shop who was recently getting over a relationship. We hit it offf pretty good-she stated that we should go out on a date.
As much as I wanted to, my instincts were saying no because I could tell that she was not truly over her relationship. She would text him, but at the same time say things were over between them.
I asked her if she would like to take things slower-she said that she would like that.
She e-mailed me her telephone number this past Saturday saying call her whenver I wanted to talk.
I attempted to call her Sunday and Monday-no answer. Wednesday she e-mails me saying that she was already dating someone else. She didn't think I was interested.
I found out from a friend at the café where we hung out that she is dating a 60 year-old man (she is 42).
I am now confused because I thought she really wanted to make a go of things.
Should I have moved things faster?
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May 5, 2009, 01:36 PM
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I think it was for the best. She clearly has dependency issues that would have made for a complicated dating life between the two of you. If she was in such a hurry to get into another relationship, it shows a huge red flag, in my book at least.
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May 5, 2009, 01:55 PM
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Sounds like she was keeping her options open, including you. If she's still not over her last relationship, it looks like you or the other guy is a rebound.
There's not much you could have done different, I think it's just a question of who she's more interested in. It turned out to be another man.
Accept her decision and move on.
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May 5, 2009, 02:25 PM
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You honored her wishes.I think that was the gentlemanly thing to do.
I would not have done anything different.
At 60 he is most likely in a good place financially,that may have been her reason for moving so fast with him.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
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May 5, 2009, 06:27 PM
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The guy with the most cash won, and obviously she didn't really want a serious relationship.
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May 5, 2009, 08:25 PM
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 Originally Posted by artlady
You honored her wishes.I think that was the gentlemanly thing to do.
I would not have done anything different.
At 60 he is most likely in a good place financially,that may have been her reason for moving so fast with him.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
Man, you got that right.
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May 6, 2009, 04:52 AM
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Thanks to you all for the replies.
Even though I know it was for the best that I did proceed as I did, I cannot help but wonder "what if"...
There was just "something" about her that I can't explain.
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May 6, 2009, 05:07 AM
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Gold digger.. that's all I have to say about that
Rome out
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