[Lonelyandbroken]

Learn from this experience and move on. Don't allow yourself to suffer anymore.

I suppose it's the way of things. Day by day. I've got to reclaim my life. And find that person I used to be. It's her loss. I know who I am. I just got to reconnect with myself.

[sabrewolfe]

There you go. You will find someone that really deserves what you have to offer and not only that, but you will also find that person who will fulfil your heart as well. I Wish knows what he's talking about. Good luck, you can always come here for support. There is not one person here that has not went through what you are going through. You have many friends here. You may not agree with what everyone here says, but they are giving you the best of their experiences, so don't just shy them off. Remember, we are all in this thing called life together. Any time, any day, someone will be here for you.

[Lonelyandbroken]

Yeah this site has been a huge help in letting me vent. I've actually been through worse breakups than this. Far worse. But each time the hurt takes over everything. I lost my resolve for a moment but I am building it back up.

[Alwerd54]

Don't let her get to you man. Don't letter get the best of you and let her know that she has control over you. It's not worth it. I know how you feel, my girlfriend.. or ex girlfriend now, broke up with me through AIM. Really shallow and low, she too wouldn't do it on the phone, let alone in person. Stick to NC and move on with your life. There are more fish in the sea. I'm a firm believer in Karma, what goes around, comes around.

[Lonelyandbroken]

Yeah I'm trying not to let her get to me. Just trying to resit the urge to check up on her and stuff like that. It's like I want to know but I know it will only hurt me. It's a constant battle raging in my head. To find out and be hurt. Or force myself to not look.

[Lonelyandbroken]

So it's been a few days and I'm feeling a little better. I still have the urge to check up on her but I am fighting it with all I have. I just keep telling myself that I deserve better. And that she choose to walk out. I've just chosen to shut the door. I think I'm on the right track

[kctiger]

So it's been a few days and i'm feeling a little better. I still have the urge to check up on her but i am fighting it with all i have. I just keep telling myself that i deserve better. And that she choose to walk out. I've just chosen to shut the door. I think i'm on the right track

You are on the right track, but remember that this is a process, a marathon, not a sprint, and it takes a lot of time. Just be patient and continue reinforcing yourself that you are doing the right thing. In the end, it doesn't matter what she does. It is what you do between now and the day you can wake up and smile without her that counts. Make everyday matter! (I know, a bit cheesy)

[Lonelyandbroken]

You are on the right track, but remember that this is a process, a marathon, not a sprint, and it takes a lot of time. Just be patient and continue reinforcing yourself that you are doing the right thing. In the end, it doesn't matter what she does. It is what you do between now and the day you can wake up and smile without her that counts. Make everyday matter! (I know, a bit cheesy)

That might be a bit cheesy. But you know it's the truth. Each day has got to get better right?

[Alwerd54]

Yep, just stick to your guns. NC and No check up.. the only person you should be checking up on is yourself. Seriously. I know how hard is it to not care after being in a relationship for a while and caring so much. I know how you feel. I'm going through a similar situation myself. It's hard to resist from calling, checking on social sites, or asking a friend. Just stay positive, take the advice from everyone here, and just know that tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow will be better then the last and soon enough, this will all be history that you can look back on and laugh...

[Lonelyandbroken]

Yep, just stick to your guns. NC and No check up.. the only person you should be checking up on is yourself. Seriously. I know how hard is it to not care after being in a relationship for a while and caring so much. I know how you feel. I'm going through a similar situation myself. It's hard to resist from calling, checking on social sites, or asking a friend. Just stay positive, take the advice from everyone here, and just know that tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow will be better then the last and soon enough, this will all be history that you can look back on and laugh...

Yes I'm going to stick to my guns. I'm going to focus on what's important to me. My family. I have to live my own life. If I can be truly happy in my own life then that is the best satisfaction there can be...

[Lonelyandbroken]

So I've not been doing so hot latley. I've been venting to my sister and that's been a huge help. But I still can't sleep well. I just try to wear myself out enough that I can fall asleep. I try to stay as busy as I can but I just keep thinking and thinking.. I wish I could just cut my head off.

[Lonelyandbroken]

So an update since today is my birthday. I have been feeling pretty lonely and sad lately. But I got to say that this sight has been an amazing help to me lately. Trying to hold myself to the standard of advice that I have been giving to others.


Ok now to the bad and good part. Since it's my b-day we went out and drank it up. And once home I broke down.( I met the ex on my b-day last year). And I check up on her myspace.( I know it's the devil). I had deleted her a month and a half ago. But what I had found not only mad me happy but really sad. Her profile was as follows. Picture "my give a damn is busted" Her mood " depressed" her status "I hope life get's better"

Seeing this is two fold. I feel happy that perhaps the grass isn't greener on the other sad. And of course it makes me sad. I care about her and want her to be happy. Even though she has made the choices she has.

I guess this show's that perhaps I was decent to her. I feel as I did some good in her life. I got her to wear her seat belt. To quit smoking(which I hear she now does again) (not just for me but with my support(I rubbed snuff for 8 years I knew how hard it is)

I don't know. This whole "breakdown" has got me crying right now. But happy and sad tears. I always told myself in breakups that if I brought just one good influence to their lives then I have done good. That I somehow was a good person.

Right now I'm both happy and very sad. But thanks all for perhaps reading this.

[talaniman]

Happy birthday Gemini, hope it was a good one, despite letting the ex back via Facebook. Don't let it take you back, but keep leaning forward.