[redspinster]

I have dated a guy for about 2 months.
He is very quiet and has a 13 yr old daughter. She rules the roost and has daddy wrapped around her finger. Any time we go out on a date, she texts or phones about every 15 minutes. She yells at her dad on the phone where are you/ When are you going g to be home? You didn't come home last night!
Then when picks her up at her mothers she yells to her half sister, he can pay attn to us he's been with his girlfriend all weekend. He hadn't it was just their perspective.
The dad lets them say what ever they want, then he just says I love you to them and takes them to the mall often. This is brutal for me to date this way.

[none12345]

If you don't feel like you can handle it, leave it.

[Gemini54]

Well, sorry to be harsh, but he's not hiding the fact that he has children and sees them does he?

His priority at the moment is his daughter and I think he's doing the right thing by ignoring her tantrums and telling her he loves her.

How would you feel if you were her and you didn't have your daddy? She's 13 for heaven's sake!

Show a little compassion - you're the adult here.

[Nestorian]

The child is in a dagerous area of thinking.

In one hand he is rewarding negative behaviour, but since it's getting this bad, I can not see her turning around with out a lot of aggressive behaviour and lashing out, and much worse. I've had a couple step sisters like this.
I was at my mum's + steps fathers and his daughters wouldn't let me touch any thing. I couldn't eat drink or sh!t shower or shave (ok I was still not shaving but you get the idea.), with out their permission. I just left early in the mornings, and ate supper then went to bed. Since, my mum and I, we've never bin close. I can't stand how closed minded they've become. I was like the only child as my bro and sis, were 9 years older than me.

What I'm getting at is, counseling may be wisest, sure they can say no, but you can say OK, I won't stay then. But be reasonable. Work it out talk to him, and give that a chance, but don't put up with somehting that is damaging to you. YOu guy needs to wake up and try to teach his daughter, in a reasonable compationate way, that she is behaving un healthy, for her self and others. Later in life this can become a major complex and it will take for ever to figure out.

But that's what I think you should do, try to talk to him about it, don't make him choose between you or his daughter that's not fair, but let him know how you feel. MAybe suggest the counseling. If nothing comes of it, well you decide.

Peace and kindness be with you.

[talaniman]

This isn't really your business, and he will have to be the one to learn how to be a good dad.

[HistorianChick]

I'm sorry to say, but this man is a Dad. Granted, his daughter is acting like a spoiled child, but ultimately, she is his first prerogative at this point.

I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. Basically, you're asking us if it is OK to make a man choose between his daughter and his girlfriend.

Divorce is never easy; on adults OR children. You may need to respect the "dad weekend" more and not go out with him on those weekends.

If you can't handle the heat, then you need to leave the kitchen.