[logans_mom]

Hello all! My name is Tiffany. I am in somewhat of a complicated situation. I have been with my boyfriend for two years and we have a one year old together. When I was pregnant I had some complications with my pregnancy so my boyfriend wanted me to quit my job. (I didn’t want to) I quit and a few months later we moved into an apartment where I could not sign the lease. I am listed as a resident. We have been having a multitude of problems. He is very immature and holds everything over my head. He is emotionally and physically abusive but I can’t do anything about it for fear my son and I will be on the street. Over the past few months I have been recording him when he is abusive. He steals my memory card and camera all the time. The last time he did it I called the police. Since then he tells me he is having me evicted. I am in nursing school and can’t get a full time job. I only have 1 1/2 years left and this would be my only means to support me and my son. We do not have any agreement for me to pay bills as I only do daycare and I am a full time student. He pays all the house bills and has since he told me to quit. I use my daycare money for my personal expenses and food shopping. He put on the eviction paperwork he wanted me out because I called the police and I don’t contribute to the bills. HE TOLD ME WHEN I QUIT HE WOULD SUPPORT ME! He even pays for my nursing. (I am very grateful for everything but I pay the price)He unplugs the cable box and takes the modem with him so I can’t watch TV, or use the internet, he constantly breaks things. Since the police escapade I have put even more of an effort in to make things work for the sake of our son. I even wanted to get counseling for us so we can see where the other is coming from. But he claims I am doing that because he said he was going to have me evicted. I have applied for assistance but have been denied because I make "too much" $440 a month. So here are my questions:
1. Can he do this?
2. Do I have any rights?
3. Will a judge look at the whole picture and realize he is doing this because "he can"(in his words)
4. Are they any laws that protect people like me from this happening?
I really don’t know what to do. I don’t have any family out here and I am at a complete loss. Any advice is GREATLY appreciated. Oh, we live in NJ. Thank you in advance!

[undrwatr]

Yes, check with some local shelters for women and move out. Also, find out how to make him start paying child support (the shelter can give you advice. This all may seem a little extreme or it may not but if you continue with that relationship, your life will look the same way 5 or 10 years from now.

Good Luck.

[ScottGem]

If he is the only one on the lease then he can have you evicted, but he must do it according to local law. He can't just kick you out. He has to give you proper notice. etc.

[Fr_Chuck]

He can evict you if he is on the lease and you are not.

But to be honest if he is phsycially abusive, you should be calling the police "at least" but there are shelters, you get out, and don't look back.

Raising a chld where the child learns it is OK to abuse your partner is to me nothing but child abuse since it allows them to grow with a wrong idea of what relationships should be.

So worst case, you have to stop school for now, go to work full time or work full time and go to school, 1000's of us have done it.

[Fr_Chuck]

Ok this man is "nuts" he takes a cable box with him/ While not legal someone this crazy would just throw you belongings in the street, or worst perhaps just kill you in your sleep