[SweetBeth]

My boyfriends ex fiancé (whom he was with for 5 yrs and,she cheated on him and used him for his money)has moved back to the area,recently divorced(not even married a yr to the guy she left my boyfriend for and has a baby) She is living right next door to my boyfriend brother and has recently been taking her baby over and hanging out, my boyfriend mother apprently has been there at the same time and has relayed all the info the ex fiancé had to share with my boyfriend, why his mother thinks he needed to know anything in the first place, I didn't understand this, and was really aggravated by this. But I know that the ex has other intentions, we've been together for 3 yrs but when we first got togther before she was married she would have her sister call him to find out who I was and tell him she wasn't getting along with her now ex husband if he wanted to call her and talk. So I just know she has other intentions, seeing that she lost out on a good thing. So should I be upset that she is hanging out at his brothers? Or that his mother is sharing info with him?And what if I'm there and she just happens to stop over?And there is an upcoming birthday party for his nephew, and I just know she will be there with her baby, how do I handle this?? Help me I need some advise

[I wish]

If he's as great as you say he is, then maybe you should trust him. But you should still bring this issue up with him. You can't force him to stop seeing his ex, but you can let him know that you are uncomfortable with it. See what he says and then go from there.

[mudweiser]

I agree with wish: talk to him.

This woman clearly has boundary issues, amongst many others.

However I do feel that it is not that odd that she's talking to the family again since she just relocated back to town, she may feel lonely and want to talk to people she knows. Trust your fiancée, becoming a possesive girlfriend will only backfire.

Sarah

[talaniman]

Express your feelings, and let him handle his own family. Its only a big of a deal, as you make it.

[makapuu]

I know what you are going through. I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year, and his ex-girlfriends keep "checking in" with him. My boyfriend is a very caring guy, so I can't blame those women for reaching out to him when they are lonely.

I wouldn't worry about her. There is a reason why she is your boyfriend's ex-fiancee, and everyone knows it. If you are in a loving relationship with her ex- then she should respect that. Maybe she needs to see the two of you happy together.