[maria16]

Two years ago I told a friend (who is on the shy side) I had feelings for him, and was rejected by him.

I decided I wanted to maintain/save the friendship, so after a little time, we started spending time together again, and I thought I had moved on.

Since then, we have become even better friends, and have even started a freelance company together. Now, if we don't see each other everyday, we at least talk/email/text. We share many things together and have much in common.
Recently, however, my feelings have started coming back... and I'm not sure what to do because I don't want to risk losing the friendship, but I don't want to 'confess' anything again because I don't want to fall in the same hole twice.

Any advice? Thank you!

[talaniman]

I read your other posts, and really think you need a social life with friends, and activities that revolve around other things, besides latching on to guys after a few dates.

That you now are having trouble handling your feelings for your friend/business partner, is nothing more than you not having other things in your life that you enjoy, and would really be great if you broaden your circle of people, places, and things, in your life.

Much easier to deal with reality, when it has many things in it that you can use as a balancing outlet, to deal with your own feelings.

You may be alone, but you don't have to be lonely. Keep business/friendships separate, and deal with them both accordingly.

[maria16]

You basically calling me a loser based on my posts, which I ask here occasionally (ie once every 4-5 months) just to get some objective views on issues, is really great advice.

All I know is I'm never checking this site again, so you don't have to bother writing a response back. Just keep in mind, for other people's sake, that offering advice, and 'telling it like it is' is good, but making assumptions about how people live their lives and then making them feel like s*** is hardly helpful- you're dealing with other humans here. Your words impact other people, and you just totally ruined someone's day.

[talaniman]

Don't be so sensitive, if I wanted to call you names, I would, but just trying to point out some options, that may help you get some happiness, and be better able to cope. Sorry you took it wrong, that wasn't my intentions.

Need a hug?