[talaniman]

What's your plan?? That's what you need to do. So what's your plan?

[none12345]

Whats your plan??? Thats what you need to do. So whats your plan??

For now get a summer job, get fit by going to the gym and go out more with my friends when I get home, I would like to meet new people, spend more time with my family and that's pretty much it I guess... seems pretty boring and routine... I'm going to keep NCing my ex and I don't even want to think about her anymore but sometmes I can't help it. Maybe find someone else afterwards when I'm done all of this I guess. Than finish school, and get a permanent job after that I don't know. Sounds like a boring life

[talaniman]

Not very specific. What I was more interested in was the daily things you do for yourself besides the gym.

Young people seem to like to hang in crowds, but what you do without the crowd, may be a good idea to help speed the healing process, and give you some options as to new, and different people, places, and things to get involved in.

Are they're any community service organizations, that maybe deliver to older people, or clean lots, or something a strong young fellow might volunteer for?

I mean what good is a great bod, without the sound mind, and giving heart? Volunteering is truly an eye opener, and a great way to build character, meet good people, and be useful, and productive.

You aren't boring, you just don't know what to do with yourself. You had no problem giving some female your time, so give your time to someone that truly needs it.

[none12345]

Not very specific. What I was more interested in was the daily things you do for yourself besides the gym.

Young people seem to like to hang in crowds, but what you do without the crowd, may be a good idea to help speed the healing process, and give you some options as to new, and different people, places, and things to get involved in.

Are they're any community service organizations, that maybe deliver to older people, or clean lots, or something a strong young fellow might volunteer for??

I mean what good is a great bod, without the sound mind, and giving heart?? Volunteering is truly an eye opener, and a great way to build character, meet good people, and be useful, and productive.

You aren't boring, you just don't know what to do with yourself. You had no problem giving some female your time, so give your time to someone that truly needs it.

Yah right now my daily routine is just school and during the summer I'm going to find a job. I guess I can try to volunteer in something to help the community out. Pretty much right now the whole time, I'm trying to focus on school and all with the exams coming up but I find it hard to lately with all the drama going on and all.

[kctiger]

My advice, find as much stuff as you can do to keep yourself occupied. You have to WANT and be WILLING to sacrifice yourself to get over this, in my opinion. I have constantly been pushing and pushing myself to the limit just to get better, help others, and build an all around decent life for myself. Am I exhausted a lot, yes, but it beats staying in and crying myself to sleep playing some love songs...

[jmw0713]

Maybe join some student groups or clubs at school. That will help you meet new people and keep you distracted.

[none12345]

Thx KC and JMW but yah you've guys told me that already so many times lol and thanks for telling me I need a reminder lol.

Anyway guys... I got to admit recently I feel like the darkside keeps pulling me and I keep on feeling to break NC. Haven't yet though but I have urges to. I still want her back but I know for sure it won't happen anymore so why am I still tempted. I feel like I want to know what's going on with her life and it still hurts me to think of her and the other guy.

What can I do? >_< I need HELP!!

[jmw0713]

You have to remain strong. You can't turn off these feelings over night. You just have to know that you will get over this and allow time to do its work. The best way to get time to pass is by having fun. Now go out and do something fun!

[none12345]

Should I break NC or keep it? I'm afraid if I break NC ill go back to square one and feel more hurt than if I don't break it.

[stillfading]

Should i break NC or keep it? im afraid if i break NC ill go back to square one and feel more hurt than if i dont break it.

You will. And it will make you very vulnerable like it all first happened. I was in your shoes and yesterday broke NC. Now I'm back to day 1. grrrrr

My girl moved coast to coast for ME and after a year wanted space aka met another guy. She moved out to move with him after only knowing him a month.

Trust me man, she's not going to come running back and why would u want her to? All your feelings right now.. your reasons for being on here... its all her fault! Find someone better Don't BREAK NC

[none12345]

you will. and it will make you very vulnerable like it all first happened. I was in your shoes and yesterday broke NC. Now I'm back to day 1. grrrrr

my girl moved coast to coast for ME and after a year wanted space aka met another guy. she moved out to move with him after only knowing him a month.

trust me man, shes not gonna come running back and why would u want her to? all your feelings right now.. your reasons for being on here... its all her fault! find someone better DONT BREAK NC

Yah my ex left me for some other guy too. I don't feel like I can be with her anymore. Oh what happened when you broke nc? How'd it happen?

[stillfading]

I gave into all her texts. If you want to fight for her you have to do so by being strong and silent. If you contact her then she wins her game and knows you're still there waiting like a puppy to cuddle with again when he doesn't work out.

And they won't work out. I feel like crap for breaking NC. I disappointed myself.

She knows you still care. Trust me. You just got to hang in there. You can PM me if you need support, I know I do. Dude we are so much better than these people. They gave up a life of honest and pure love for curiosity and fun.

NC NC NC

[stillfading]

I played text message terrorism too lol. Man we really have no choice once we start suspecting things, it's not fair to us. And look... we were BOTH right. Dude I can relate so much thank you for posting this when you did. Let them have each other and "find themselves" and all that BS. Its an excuse to soften the blow because YES they still love us and care. But they lack the commitment necessary to have a love that is worth US caring for. Our girls were cowards and living their lives on lies, can't change their minds or their answers. Just keep going going going NC

[none12345]

i gave into all her texts. if you want to fight for her you have to do so by being strong and silent. if you contact her then she wins her game and knows you're still there waiting like a puppy to cuddle with again when he doesnt work out.

and they won't work out. I feel like crap for breaking NC. I disappointed myself.

she knows you still care. trust me. you just gotta hang in there. u can PM me if u need support, i know i do. dude we are so much better than these people. they gave up a life of honest and pure love for curiosity and fun.

NC NC NC

Yah. Okay. Our situation is so alike and I think we're going through the same thing. Even if she wants me back I don't think I can take her back anymore. I can try but I don't think it ll work out. We so deserve someone who will appreciate us and love us no matter what and be loyal and not bail on us for some other guy.

NC all the way. If we break it we would be just more hurt than if we don't? Actually I gave up so much for this girl too. I move away for her to be closer, I spent so much money on her and I'm a college student, I go see her 200 miles away and back and so much man. She gave me up without hesitation... I feel so used up.

[dooobi]

Hey!

Don't break NC..! I started nc for 3 weeks, then thought I could have a friendly talk with him so I broke NC... now I have to start all over again! Trust me, you don't want to know what they are doing.. it'll just hurt you more! And why do we want more pain when we are already suffering everyday?

So keep up your NC and don't be like me... I felt so vulnerable after I talked to him... its like he moved on... but I'm still the same.. which makes me so weak... and I would hate for him to see me like this.. especially when he likes another girl... which makes me look even more bad..! So stay strong! NC NC

[heartbroke]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GK5qy_X7R8
This is how I keep myself busy :) it made me feel better, hope it does the same for you!

[stillfading]

is that you in the video? ^ that lifted my spirits

currently resisting her texts blah no more feeding her ego to boost her eternally lacking self esteem and guilt.

none, do u have email or a messenger? Would like to talk sometime man to help each other! I'm a college student as well

[heartbroke]

Yup that's me, it made me feel like a thousand times better when I watched it :)

[none12345]

is that you in the video? ^ that lifted my spirits

currently resisting her texts blah no more feeding her ego to boost her eternally lacking self esteem and guilt.

none, do u have email or a messenger? would like to talk sometime man to help each other! im a college student as well

yah I do. I got msn =P what's your email? Message me or something and ill add you!

[stillfading]

Hearbroke your video was awesome. I am a musician (with real fans) and would love to chat with u sometime as well!