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jmw0713 · Apr 3, 2009, 01:51 PM

Yeah don't go back and fall into the trap again. You're just sabotaging the progress you have been making to getting over this.

none12345 · Apr 3, 2009, 01:58 PM

Yah I just read your story man >_< my story is so similar. How are things now? What's going on? Are things looking up? O_O

none12345 · Apr 4, 2009, 12:50 AM

I want my ex back... I miss her and I love her and I feel I've been away from her for too long. She treats me so crappy but why do I still feel this way? Is she thinking of me? >_< I don't know what to do I feel like breaking NC. It seems like its getting really hard for everyone these days...

none12345 · Apr 4, 2009, 03:54 PM

I don't know why guys but today I've been extremely down. Been thinking about my ex a lot lately... I want her back... I don't really know what to do. I need some self respect but I still love her and its starting to hurt again. Still in NC.

snow124 · Apr 4, 2009, 04:10 PM

Hang in there, and look out for yourself. If she's trying to choose between you and someone else, you don't want to be with her. My fiancée chose someone else but came back to me - and things weren't the same after that, and did not work out.

Arzy99 · Apr 4, 2009, 04:29 PM

Stay in NC my friend...
Believe me I know the pain you are going through as I was there not too long ago.
You are right.. you need to show YOURSELF some respect; and the only way of doing that is to UNDERSTAND that this girl is just not the one for you... In my opinion you deserve better... and I think in a situation like this you need the support of other people to make you realise these things!.

Let me tell you something.. I was like you in the early stages of NC.. crying, couldn't handle the thought of her with this other guy, tempted to break it...
But as time went on.. as I gathered more and more help from this website.. as I went out more, learning more about life... I realised what she did.. she LEFT ME FOR ANOTHER GUY. I realised this with a COMPLETELY objective mindset and I told myself, what in heck am I doing pining over a girl that left me for another guy.. I am SO much better than that.. I know it, and so do all my friends and even some of hers... WHY would I put myself through more and more pain.

The point I am making is.. whilst in NC.. at some point, some time.. something will click, like it did for me... and you are going to wake up one day and say what the heck am I doing still thinking about her... I deserve better, I will get better and I will BE better..

Believe me, that moment will happen too.. IF you stick to NC... when it does, remember my words :)...

As for now.. good days and bad days will come.. and when those bad days come you got to step to the plate and show your strength of character, you have to ride the storm... remember though, we are all here to ride the storm with you... don't you forget that!

none12345 · Apr 4, 2009, 05:00 PM

Yah... it I'm sticking to NC and I have to be strong. It hurts me so much when I think of her being with the other guy and what they are doing though. I thought I was getting better but I did for a bit and now I'm not anymore.

NC is the best way to heal and move on but I still have feelings for her and I think of her and I want to be with her but I can't anymore. She's gone and she's never coming back and I'm still here waiting... I need to move on but its so hard and I don't know if I can.

kctiger · Apr 4, 2009, 06:31 PM

Originally Posted by none12345

i need to move on but its so hard and i dont know if i can.

You can... and you WILL. Even if you don't believe in yourself yet, you have a lot of people on this website who do.

none12345 · Apr 5, 2009, 05:03 PM

Guys I feel like going to the darkside... >_<

kctiger · Apr 5, 2009, 05:14 PM

What's up man? What's the deal? Talk to me

none12345 · Apr 5, 2009, 05:21 PM

Well dude man. I've been missing her a lot lately and I wish things could work out. I want to get her back. I don't know if I can NC anymore man the 2 weeks I'm in NC has been hell. I wonder what she's doing all the time, and if she and the other guy is kissing or doing stuff or w.e.

I feel like I need to stop NC and do some desperate attempt to get her back man and do one of those fairy tales stuff to prove how much I love her so we can have our happy ending... ugh... I hate this feeling just when I thought I was getting better I feel like I can't live without her in my life.

kctiger · Apr 5, 2009, 05:24 PM

Been there done that, and I can tell you the BEST thing to do is just stick to NC. You give in, and you take monstrous steps back... it ain't worth it. You are good enough as you are and she doesn't deserve you fighting to get her. That is a total loss of self respect.

none12345 · Apr 5, 2009, 05:28 PM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Been there done that, and I can tell you the BEST thing to do is just stick to NC. You give in, and you take monstrous steps back...it ain't worth it. You are good enough as you are and she doesn't deserve you fighting to get her. That is a total loss of self respect.

Yup kc, I just think that if I fight for her in the end she ll realize everything and treat me better and think differently of me. I just feel like doing some ultimatum to get her back or something. Does self respect really matter if in the end I get the girl of my dreams. I got to admit I still have mix feelings about her. Sometimes I feel like I can't be with her anymore and sometimes I feel like I really want her in my life. I just don't know what to do now man.

kctiger · Apr 5, 2009, 05:31 PM

You just continue being strong and don't give into meaningless tempation. This isn't a movie. If she wanted you, she would find you. Self respect does matter, because without it, even if you do get the "girl of your dreams" you won't keep her without first loving yourself.

If, may I ask, she was the girl of your dreams, why in the hell would she be with another guy right now? You are still blinded by emotions that aren't rational at all. Don't act on stupidity...

none12345 · Apr 5, 2009, 05:38 PM

Originally Posted by kctiger

You just continue being strong and don't give into meaningless tempation. This isn't a movie. If she wanted you, she would find you. Self respect does matter, because without it, even if you do get the "girl of your dreams" you won't keep her without first loving yourself.

If, may I ask, she was the girl of your dreams, why in the hell would she be with another guy right now? You are still blinded by emotions that aren't rational at all. Don't act on stupidity...

Its just I love her personality and the person she is. She is everything I want in a girl except I want my girl to love me and be loyal to me and she isn't that but if she could it would be perfect. I don't know if that's possible though. I won't know till I try? The trust has been broken though and I don't know if I could be with her ever again but yet I still want to be with her because I see the perfect world but I might not be seeing the reality.

I know I'm still blinded by emotions. KC do you believe in ultimatums? Like do something big to see if she is willing to come back? Perphaps it brings closure? And it feels easier to move on?

Survivor07 · Apr 5, 2009, 05:40 PM

You're not listening to sappy love songs, are you?

Keep up the NC!! You will be so sorry and humiliated even more if you break it now after coming so far.

You're going home soon you said. Keep that goal in your mind. If you can make it home without breaking NC, think of that as milestone and reward yourself when you get there.

You CAN do this and you WILL and you will be SO GLAD you did.

kctiger · Apr 5, 2009, 05:41 PM

I believe in reality, and the fact that you don't need to fight for someone like her. You don't believe in yourself, but I do, and that is what matters. We all do. You create your own closure and you will get there eventually. Just be strong, don't give up, and don't give in!

none12345 · Apr 5, 2009, 05:42 PM

Originally Posted by Survivor07

You're not listening to sappy love songs, are you?

Keep up the NC!!!! You will be so sorry and humiliated even more if you break it now after coming so far.

You're going home soon you said. Keep that goal in your mind. If you can make it home without breaking NC, think of that as milestone and reward yourself when you get there.

You CAN do this and you WILL and you will be SO GLAD you did.

Omg survivor how do you know I'm listening to sappy love songs? >_< lol

Okies ill keep NC till I get home. How do I reward myself? O_O

snow124 · Apr 5, 2009, 05:46 PM

Originally Posted by none12345

its just i love her personality and the person she is. She is everything i want in a girl except i want my girl to love me and be loyal to me and she isnt that but if she could it would be perfect.

She's the girl of your dreams... but...

If she was, there wouldn't be a but.

My ex was perfect for me except for the fact that she slept with someone else. Losing her still hurts terribly but I realize it wasn't right.

none12345 · Apr 5, 2009, 05:48 PM

Originally Posted by kctiger

I believe in reality, and the fact that you don't need to fight for someone like her. You don't believe in yourself, but I do, and that is what matters. We all do. You create your own closure and you will get there eventually. Just be strong, don't give up, and don't give in!

Okay I won't give up. Last night I drank too much I started having crazy ideas on what to do for her. I have been strong. Been NC for 2 weeks but I don't know how much longer I can keep NC. First time I've NC and I broke it, I just got more pain and now this is my second NC and I've been in NC ever since. I don't want to go back to the pain anymore. You're right I should keep NC to save myself from the pain.

I don't know I'm just a sap for those love stories that you should fight for love till the very end and in the end if you get the girl it ll be worth it but if you don't you can move on in peace.