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    nick88 Posts: 19, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 26, 2009, 03:41 PM
    My dad doesn't want me to go out anymore
    OK so I am a 20 year old girl, almost 21. Im graduating college in a year. I work and I go to school. Im going to start by saying.. I started having friends when I started college. In high school, I was very quiet. I did have a few friends and I went out mayb three times a month. My confidence ever since I graduated high school went up so high.. that I have too many friends now and I go out all the time. As you probably know, college nightlife starts on thursdays.. So I go out thurs- sat. By dad thinks I go out too much and that I should be allowed out only once a week and be home the latest at 12,1.. I disagree with that because I feel that if my parents let me go out whenever.. I would mature faster and realize later on that I don't have to go out.. and maybe get sick of it. So since I started late of going out, right now I'm at a 17 yr old level. Do you get what I'm saying. What do you think.. do you think he's wrong? I feel that we only live once and we should enjoy life to the fullest. And since I'm still young, I should go out and enjoy myself. Its not like I don't work or don't go to school. Im a good kid, I'm responsible. I just don't get it. My dad tells me that at this age I should start looking for what I want in life and career goals. But I do have goals in life.. I'm still in school. I mean I think I'm at the age where I should start being independent and making my own decisions. But he wants me to stop going outt.. because he says I go out too much. He doesn't get it.. I don't know.. just help me.
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    Mar 26, 2009, 03:51 PM

    As long as you are living in your parents house you should learn to live by their rules. Don't like it, then get out on your own and find out how much there is to it. Both of my girls knew up front that as long as they lived in my house then obeyed my rules. One of them was letting us know if she was not going to be home, where she was going and with who. Did not matter if they were 15 or 25. Those are the rules, and they had to obey them out of common courtesy or else.
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    Mar 26, 2009, 04:38 PM

    Yes I understand that, but you let your kid go out as long as she told you the details. My dad doesn't want me going to out period. What's the ideal time for me to come home? Curious
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    Mar 26, 2009, 04:40 PM
    As a parent of a young adult your age, I have to agree with Don above. If you are living under his roof, he is paying your heating and cooling, as well as feeding you, you live by his rules.

    You are of an age where you can move out and live on your own. Many people go to college and don't live with their parents.
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    Mar 27, 2009, 09:19 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by nick88 View Post
    yes i understand that, but you let your kid go out as long as she told you the details. My dad doesnt want me going to out period. Whats the ideal time for me to come home? curious

    Maybe it is time you and your father sit down together and have a heart to heart talk. Ask him point blank why he is so reluctant to let you date. Get some rules laid down and in place. Maybe get them in writing and signed by both of you clearly stating the responsibilities of both of you. Then live by them.
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    Mar 27, 2009, 09:58 AM

    You are an adult.. its time to be on your own.. its your fathers home and if you can't follow his rules get your own place

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