[zippocan]

So about a month ago my girlfriend broke up with me. Nobody saw it coming including me. When she broke up I wanted to know why, but she couldn't find a reason, and would say she could honestly say I was the best she's had, blah blah all that typical stuff. See she asked me out, I didn't ask her. Because I kept being told she's not a boyfriend type of girl so I wanted to make sure it wasn't more of the same thing. But she said shouldn't it be a different story since she asked me. She said she still wanted to be friends and told her friends she saw us back together in a while. But now she's got a new boyfriend. And I don't know whether to see if she still wants to hang out, or should I just not talk to her, at least till this new guys out. Because, I know its what she thinks that really matters, but I don't think hell last. But I can't stop thinking about her no matter how busy I keep. I feel like if I keep talking we'll just stay friends. But if I don't well split for good. Its such a hard story to explain and I can't seem to tell it very good. I know advice should be given with a good question but that's all I can come up with. I just don't know what to do.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Don't let yourself be someone's second choice. Don't let her put your emotions and feelings on the back burner. When she is ready for you, don't be there. Move on, begin no contact, and begin the healing process.

[liz28]

So basically your willing to sit around and wait for her or to see if her new relationship doesn't work so hopefully you've a second chance with her, don't.

You have no obligation to her and don't have to hang out with her. Hang out with your friends or family not her. Your waiting around her like a puppy dog and believes me she knows it.

Also, why do her thoughs matter so much to you when she couldn't even give you a clear reason to why she broke up with you when she did?

You need to really pull yourself together and leave this girl alone. Stop living on false hope and you should want more. Why do you want to stick around to be some lifeboat after what you did to you. You need to accept what your had is over and let go. You already stated she isn't girlfriend material so again why waste your valuable time again?

[talaniman]

She picked you, and she dumped you, and got someone else. That's your cue to get your own life back, and enjoy yourself, without her in your life.

It may take time, but you will stop feeling hurt, rejected, and confused, especially if you get busy doing things you enjoy with people who are close to you, and about having fun.

Sucks, I know, but there will be other options, and opportunities, after you have healed, and moved on.

Sorry for your loss, and I wish you the best.

[I wish]

Try not to take everything she said too seriously. She wants to keep you around as a friend or maybe her backup plan, so she said things not to hurt you too badly with hints of hope for the future.

That's not the type of girl that you want to be with. You can do better than that. If you can handle ONLY being friends, then keep talking to her. Otherwise, stop contacting her until you feel like you can handle friends only.

[Jack9595]

Dude forget her she isn't worth it. Just leave her alone find a new girlfriend I don't know just forget about her.