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    18Ahunnie Posts: 48, Reputation: 7
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    Mar 12, 2009, 07:02 PM
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    I just saw pictures of my bf's friend bachelor party. He did not end up going, but after what I seen in the pics I'm so glad he did not go. I freaked out and was feeling insecure as insecure can be.

    The pictures consisted of huge breatsed women, nice asses, and their was some sex going on. In one picture a stripper is having sex with one of the guys!! It made me cry, and made me think what the hell goes on at bachelor parties? One day I want to get married, and thereofre a bachelor party will happen in the future. I did not how to react so I just stormed out.


    Even though he wasn't there, it just made me sick to my stomach thinking what if he was there, and the future parties coming up that is all I am going that is going to be in my mind.

    He replied to the email, "too bad he didint go, he missed out on some titties" he said it's a guy thing.

    I shouldt be snooping but I was curious as to what the reply was.


    Is that what seriously happennnig at bachelor parties? That is so degrating. If that's what really happens then us women will have problems because its not a trust or insecurity issue, its just WRONG!
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    Mar 13, 2009, 05:59 AM

    No, that's not what happens at all bachelor parties. My fiancé and I might have a joint bachelor party, we haven't decided. Personally, if I was you boyfriend, I would be highly upset with you. He didn't even go to the darn thing and you are getting angry at him! He's being grilled for what occurred at the event without even being there. A bachelor party is about having fun, with the guy for one last night. Sure strippers are there but sex doesn't always happen, in fact it's often very rare for it too.

    Stop snooping, he hasn't given you any reason not to trust him and you are going to see this relationship end very quickly if you don't stop this behavior.
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    Mar 13, 2009, 06:08 AM

    So what happens if you see pictures of his friends doing other things you don't approve of? Do you automatically get mad at your boyfriend, even if he wasn't there? This is insane.

    And, I am really not the type to judge, but I have NEVER seen any of my friends have sex with a stripper. Most of them value themselves preservation enough not to, so it is not typical at all to happen at a bachelor party.

    Lighten up, otherwise you are really going to seem like a total bit** to him. He hasn't done anything wrong. What some of his friends do is their business, and has nothing to do with you as a couple.
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    Mar 13, 2009, 06:12 AM
    You checked email in his email account? Does he know you do this? Is he allowed to check your emails too?
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    Mar 13, 2009, 06:22 AM

    I never been to a bachelor party that actually had sex going on and I have been to a lot of them. But you can not get mad at him for something he had nothing to do with. We make our own decisions and the guy who said yeah I am going to have sex with this stripper made his own decision. Do you think your boyfriend would cheat on you with a stripper? Oh and that guy who had sex with the stripper believe he paid for that it wasn't free.
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    Mar 13, 2009, 06:29 AM

    Yea all the bachelor parties I've been to never involved sex. Sure there were strippers and lots of alcohol, but never any sex. All the parties I've been to are just a bunch of guys going to a couple strip clubs and getting hammered. Honestly, most of the time, there is nothing for the bachelor's fiancé to worry about. Granted, I'm not going to say that sex NEVER happens at these parties, but I'd also say it is a very rare occurrence if it does.
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    Mar 13, 2009, 09:03 AM

    Your way to sensitive, and are over reacting, making nothing, into something.
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    Mar 13, 2009, 06:37 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by NeedKarma View Post
    You checked email in his email account? Does he know you do this? Is he allowed to check your emails too?

    Yah he found out when he got back, because I left it open to let him noe that I saw it, and he got reallly angry at me and we got in a huge fight. What would happen if he was at the party and I saw the pics?
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    Mar 13, 2009, 06:39 PM

    The point is: HE WASN'T AT THE PARTY!

    If you don't trust you b/f then don't be with him, but you don't harass someone for something they could have done... He wasn't even there.
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    Mar 13, 2009, 06:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by 18Ahunnie View Post
    Yah he found out when he got back, because I left it open to let him noe that I saw it, and he got reallly angry at me and we got in a huge fight. What would happen if he was at the party and I saw the pics?
    You have major trust issues and your making your boyfriend pay for them. He didn't go to the party, so whatever happened at the party didn't involve him. Why are you so upset?

    I don't blame him for being angry, I'd be mad at you too.

    would happen if he was at the party and I saw the pics
    I don't know, it didn't happen, so why worry about it?
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    Mar 13, 2009, 07:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by 18Ahunnie View Post
    What would happen if he was at the party and i saw the pics?
    THEN you can get mad , but he wasn't. If you want to stay with your BF then stop being so insecure and trust him.

    And stop looking at his emails , that's an invasion of privacy unless he actually shows you.
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    Mar 14, 2009, 08:38 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by 18Ahunnie View Post
    Yah he found out when he got back, because i left it open to let him noe that i saw it,
    I just shake my head. YOU invade his privacy and then have the balls to let him know it, then have the balls to blame him for it.

    Quote Originally Posted by 18Ahunnie View Post
    and he got reallly angry at me
    Ya think?

    Quote Originally Posted by 18Ahunnie View Post
    and we got in a huge fight.
    Which I hope he won, because he was 100% correct on more then one level.

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    What would happen if he was at the party and i saw the pics?
    What a stupid question. What would happen if he was the one that shot Lincoln or caused the space shuttle to explode? Who are you just to throw random questions at someone about something they didn't do? Do you call the police are report crimes that never took place?

    If you want to marry this guy, let me assure you he isn't going to stick around if this is what he's facing every time comes home. To be perfectly honest, it is you who should count herself lucky, because if you did to me... or I dare so most men what you've done to him I think you would have found your way out of their lives. So in that regard I will say you've got a guy who is putting up with your lack of trust, privacy, and respect issues better then most would.
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    Mar 14, 2009, 08:41 AM

    What about when you do married? At bachelor parties... THERE ARE ALWAYS STRIPPERS... you going to hold that to him too and fight at the alter?

    Trust and communication. You need to reevaluate yourself and work on your esteem issues.
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