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s-shaw5 · Mar 5, 2009, 12:27 PM

Well me and my girlfriend have been together for 9 months now ,and everything was going great as I thought, until last week when she told me she wants a break and some time to think... because she said she can't have her family being mad at her for being with me, and that she realized I was controlling her whole life, and that I did not trust her, and I regret being like that it is just my personality I have to be overly protective. But she keeps telling me that she still loves me and misses so much, and that she can't stop looking at our pictures and stuff. But she said that she wants to live out her senior year, because it only happens once and I got to have fun my senior year, there is only like 3 months until she graduates, should I wait for her, or should I just try to move on... recently she just sent me a message saying that if I can't waith a while for her then to just move on...

Justwantfair · Mar 5, 2009, 01:17 PM

You girlfriend is stepping out of the relationship. Yes, she stills may have feelings for you, but the things that are problems in the relationship are serious.

Being controlling and not trusting is a problem that YOU have to work on. You need to step away from this relationship and that includes telling her that if she wants a break she shouldn't be contacting you. You need to take this time and learn to like yourself, be comfortable with yourself. You can not be a great partner to anyone if you aren't happy with yourself.

s-shaw5 · Mar 5, 2009, 01:27 PM

Originally Posted by Justwantfair

You girlfriend is stepping out of the relationship. Yes, she stills may have feelings for you, but the things that are problems in the relationship are serious.

Being controlling and not trusting is a problem that YOU have to work on. You need to step away from this relationship and that includes telling her that if she wants a break she shouldn't be contacting you. You need to take this time and learn to like yourself, be comfortable with yourself. You can not be a great partner to anyone if you aren't happy with yourself.

Yeah I know, I'm going to spend every moment that I have to better myself... thank you:)

talaniman · Mar 5, 2009, 01:35 PM

Why should you wait on someone, that has other, more important things to do, than be with you?

s-shaw5 · Mar 5, 2009, 01:38 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Why should you wait on someone, that has other, more important things to do, than be with you??

That is so true.

Lowtax4eva · Mar 5, 2009, 01:58 PM

Agreeing with the general consensus here, she seems to want to "have fun" aka meet new guys and is just letting you down kind of easy.

She's not worth waiting for in my opinion.

liz28 · Mar 5, 2009, 01:59 PM

The only thing you can do in life is live and learn. You always know the things you've to work on but you also learned that sometimes it' hard for someone to be with someone that their family doesn't like. Her family not liking you could be from your controlling ways.

Now move forward with your life and let her lived hers and have all the fun she wants and I suggest you do the same.

s-shaw5 · Mar 5, 2009, 02:02 PM

Originally Posted by Lowtax4eva

Agreeing with the general concensus here, she seems to want to "have fun" aka meet new guys and is just letting you down kinda easy.

She's not worth waiting for in my opinion.

Yeah that is what I kind of figured it was to, but I guess I'm just going to have to move on... no matter how hard it is.

s-shaw5 · Mar 5, 2009, 03:54 PM

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I'm being respectful and giving her the break she needs but she just sent me an email out of nowhere, saying this "so i heard you added one of my friends to myspace. your a you know that. and now i really dont trust you cause i didnt even know you had a myspace.

ewh.

but i still love you. and im glad were taking this time away too.
dont forget about me either." those are the exact words. And then 2 minutes later she sent me a message on myspace telling me to go myself... oh don't know what to think. Is she saying this stuff because she cares, and I'm not showing her attention anymore?

talaniman · Mar 5, 2009, 04:08 PM

She is only doing what she can to make you confused, and miserable, and unless you get of that myspace thing, she will drive you nuts.

Come on guy get your nose out of her behind! Sorry to be harsh, but until you close the door on any contact with her you will be confused and miserable.