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_HelloStephy_ · Mar 3, 2009, 10:31 AM

I liked this guy for so many years now I'm 21 and he's 25 I've liked him since I was 16 years old and once I turned 18 me and him started to hang out and he would call me everyday we talk for hours I went on vacation still called me everyday we used to go out he acted like we were a couple then I don't know what happen he would call and want to hang out and I started to blow him off I don't know why I did that because I really started to fall in love with him but now he has a GIRLFRIEND.. do you think he did like me but from me starting to blow him off I pushed him away? but now he has a girlfriend but I still love him an I see him all the time I work with him I see the way he looks at me... like he miss me and what not.. what do I do? :confused:

basicallyiloveu · Mar 3, 2009, 10:41 AM

Ok, first of all hi!
I think you pushed him away cause you were in love him?
It sounds stupid but that was your 1st reaction. Maybe you wanted to play hard to get?
Now he has a girlfriend there's not much you can do unless your brave!
Is the relationship serious?
I said the word brave because you have to tell him how you feel!
I know I know.. your probably thinking "WHAT, NO WAY!!"
You have to.
Apologize and tell him.
He obviously misses you like you miss him.
Maybe he was too scared to ask you out before, but he probably realizes what he's missing!
Hope it helps!
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_HelloStephy_ · Mar 4, 2009, 05:57 PM

I need more help people please I need more advise

Luscious Leo · Mar 4, 2009, 06:26 PM

I am in a situation similar to this one- I say tell him how you feel and don't settle for a man that's second best. We as women owe it to ourselves to be just as aggressive as men are when it comes to pursuing the person that we want. You don't want to look back when you're 50 and say "I wonder what would have happened with me and ( insert his name). Sometimes we never find out exactly how people feel about us until we ask. It's apparent he had feelings for you at one point.

liz28 · Mar 5, 2009, 11:27 AM

Yes, you blew him off and messed it up for yourself. Yes, he might miss you but he might also be confuse to why you suddenly changed and started acting cold towards him. When you did this he went searching for someone that would do the opposite to what you did and hopefully found it.

Regardless if you tell him how you feel don't think that will mend everything and he would drop his girlfriend. He might misses what the two of you shared and might settle on being friends with you but nothing more so prepare yourself for that and if you can't handle being friends with him or handle seeing him with his girlfriend than don't start a friendship with him.

_HelloStephy_ · Mar 5, 2009, 01:32 PM

Yeah but the thing is his girl treats him like in shyt goes to the bar with him and flirts with other guys when he right there.. calls him a loser but yet he works 2 damn jobs and she don't work she's 30 something years old and still lives with her parents and she has balls call him names... I hate seeing him with sum1 that's going to treat him like this... and I blew him off because I was scared that if I let him in my life he was going to hurt me but I realized I hurt myself and I love him and I don't want no one but him...

liz28 · Mar 5, 2009, 02:20 PM

Well as I stated already you can express your feelings towards him but I don't what you to get mad or upset if the outcome isn't what you hope for.

For what you said his girlfriend behavior isn't right but he deals with it and tolerate it. So even though me or you might see that he isn't being treated right this is something he must see for hisself and than be strong enough to remove himself from this situation.

_HelloStephy_ · Mar 9, 2009, 08:50 PM

I need more advise..

neverme · Mar 9, 2009, 10:42 PM

It doesn't matter how she treats him, its none of your business!

If he decides to accept this behaviour it is his choice.

You pushed him away, for whatever reason, and now you have to deal with the consequences of your actions, not fun, but hey, that's the real world.

So you've read into all these signs you apparently see, you think he may still like you, well be prepared if your going to tell him that you may not get the answer you want.

My advice, stay away until he's free THEN see if there's a chance at the relationship. If you really love him you won't mind waiting what should be a short while if he really is being treated so badly.

Just because you are his ex, doesn't give you the right to poach another girl's boyfriend even if she is a b*tch.