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confused_bp · Mar 2, 2009, 07:54 PM

Hi
Well I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and he is a drug user, he used to deal in drugs but I stopped him. Witch I am very grateful for him giving that up because he didn't want to.but because of his drug use he is very paroinoid and blames me for a lot of things especially that I have cheated on him even though I haven't. He has put me through a lot of stress and I don't want to go through it no more. He goes out he says to his mums but then he doesn't come back till later if he even comes back that night. I know he isn't cheating but I can not do with him treating me this way any more is there anything that I can say to him so he changes his ways? Or should I call the whole relationship a day?if so then how can I do that because I've tried ending it a few times and every single time I take him back all because he makes me feel sorry for him please help me

ericarenee · Mar 2, 2009, 08:15 PM

Does he still do drugs if so then he is probably like that mostly fromt eh dugs. Even if he has "stopped" I'm glad you support him. I am a recoverying addict. We all need support. If you love him you should stick by him. You need to let him know that he is hurting you. And I think he should stop using drugs it never ends good. If he continues to use the result is DEATH. That's it plain and simple.

arnimal7 · Mar 2, 2009, 08:18 PM

Hey confused, you have posted a few questions in like the last 10 min. You are 8 months pregnant right? I just want to make sure I am talking to the right person? If this is then my advice to you is to move on from him. You are to young to be dealing with any of this. Didn't you say you were 17?

confused_bp · Mar 2, 2009, 08:20 PM

I know but he likes his drugs especially speed but he doesn't relise how much I want him to stop I've tried getting him help but then that just goes down the drain and I've tried telling him how it makes me feel but he doesn't seem to listen

confused_bp · Mar 2, 2009, 08:21 PM

Yeah I am 17 and I only just found this site so I thought I would get a few things off my chest. I want to make it work because I really do love him and I know I'm young but deep down I know he won't change but I want him to

neverme · Mar 2, 2009, 08:21 PM

Stop it.

Stop making excuses for him.

It's time to grow up and look at the situation for what it is. You may not like it, but if you take on adult actions you get adult consequences.

confused_bp · Mar 2, 2009, 08:27 PM

Isn't this a site were you get advice from others or is it a site were people just tell you you're a child because I know the situation I'm in and I know the consequences are you trying to say that I'm not grown up enough?

neverme · Mar 2, 2009, 08:30 PM

Because it needs to be said, I have given you advice. You need to get some space from this guy.

Look back over my posts. They are repeating the same advice!

'If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.'

friend4u178 · Mar 2, 2009, 08:34 PM

So are you willing to bring a child into the world and have it subjected to an environment that involves Drugs??

You said yourself you don't think he will change so you have a decision to make.

Bottom line is you now have a responsibility to your soon to be born child , and that's the most important thing.

confused_bp · Mar 2, 2009, 08:36 PM

I don't get involved with the drugs side of things if he does that its out of the house

friend4u178 · Mar 2, 2009, 08:42 PM

He does drugs , therefore your child will be subjected to drugs in one form or another , he will see the Baby when he's under the influence amongst other scenarios that will happen.

I'm sorry to be harsh but If you can't see that then your not as mature as you think you are.

neverme · Mar 2, 2009, 08:50 PM

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ex-324182.html

This boy is no good for you!

To get the full pic just flick between the two threads, this boy should be supporting you. Not going out taking drugs, not coming home until he feels like... then b*tching at you for sex..

I would tell him to 'Get F***ED!'

That's my advice, but I'm guessing your not going to take it.

friend4u178 · Mar 2, 2009, 08:59 PM

Originally Posted by neverme

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ex-324182.html

This boy is no good for you!!

This boy should be supporting you.Not going out taking drugs, not coming home until he feels like....then b*tching at you for sex..

Had to spread the Rep but I agree totally with this.

Originally Posted by neverme

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ex-324182.html

That's my advice, but I'm guessing your not going to take it.

I really hope she sees we aren't trying to be hurtful but sometimes the truth can seem harsh , particularly when you are emotionally involved.

lilebonygirl · Mar 3, 2009, 11:12 PM

here is some advice. I am 19 years old only 2 years older than you, so I can relate to some of the things you mentioned above. I had an ex who used to deal with drugs etc. Honestly he WON'T CHANGE for you. you can't force change among someone..they have to want to change or else they will just go back to their old ways. you have a baby now. a precious baby. think about the pain and heartache you are going through with your man..think about the nights you sit home wondering where he is.. think about the nights you lay in bed cryings wondering if he's safe..now imagine your baby feeling that exact same way! don't do that to your child. it may be hard...but walk away from him...u have ur child now...walk away