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    handsleese Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 11, 2009, 12:14 PM
    Girlfriend/ loses/ life
    My uncle passed away about 1 months ago and I was very close to him. My girlfriend was not able to be there for me as much as I would have liked her to be. So I started to shut her out and kind of stopped talking to her even though I love her. So she broke up with me about a week ago. I do not do very well expressing my feelings that is why I couldn't talk to her cause I was afraid I would lose my temper and didn't want to yell at her. I know she wanted to be there for me with my uncles death but I don't think she new how to react and I guess I didn't really know how I wanted her to act but I really needed someone to talk to and think I still do... who is the best person to talk to... should I explain this all to her even though we just broke up... I still want her back but the way I ignored her I can't blame her for breaking up...
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    Feb 11, 2009, 12:24 PM

    Maybe you should try to explain this to her, you have nothing to lose.. life is too short. Whatever happens at least you can say you tried.
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    Feb 11, 2009, 12:27 PM

    Try writing her a note: tell her everything you told us including that you find it difficult to express your feelings verbally.

    You may want to talk to a counselor, your girlfriend is not the solution to you learning how to express yourself in a healthy manner. Please seek counseling.
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    Feb 13, 2009, 09:34 AM
    Pushing people away by words, or actions, is never a good thing to do, especially if your at a loss as to what you should do.

    You can try explaining to her what you are going through, but be prepared for whatever her reaction is, good or bad.

    Have you learned something about yourself you need to know? I hope so, or you will repeat this mistake again. Learn to communicate your own feelings and to do that, you must know what your feeling.

    Always remember a good partner is never so caught up in his needs, he ignores the needs of his partner.

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