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kctiger · Jan 28, 2009, 12:48 PM

Think before you act. It is hard to do this, as anger is an emotion, and when you feel this emotion you react without hesitation. I have the same issue, but have gotten much better at it. It requires a lot of practice and discipline to manage... when you feel yourself getting angry, remove yourself from the situation, walk, breathe some deep breaths...

It is about being aware of things that make you angry, and also being aware of when you feel yourself losing control, then removing something that triggered it, or removing yourself.

talaniman · Jan 29, 2009, 08:59 PM

You cope with your anger the same way you deal with all your emotions, don't get carried away by the feelings, and give your actions plenty of thought.

If you don't, there are consequences to pay, so be aware of that.

Being able to let go, and walk away from people, places, and things you can't control, is a good tool to have.

odilians10 · Feb 1, 2009, 08:55 PM

I was just wondering what are the chances that exes getting back together after at least a yr works out... personally I think exes should remain exes... just want some opinions, if you have ever gotten back with an ex and if it worked out or not... thanks

Babyboy8983 · Feb 2, 2009, 01:14 AM

I myself have gotten back with a couple ex's, obviously none of them worked out again lol, but they did last longer this time, if its meant to be then its meant to be, think of why you to broke up if your not sure why you did then ask them. If its something little that can be fixed, then fix it, I'm not saying go and change yourself for them, because that's just stupid, but if you really think it will work out again, give it a shot

trmpldonagn · Feb 2, 2009, 01:36 AM

Would you mind telling what the reason was why you two broke up originally? Unless you'd rather not, your choice. I know couples that were divorced for 10 years, got back together and stayed together till death. I know couples that broke up, got back, but then broke up again and again. I want to tell you to go with your heart because each individual relationship is unique. If you both want to give it another go, why not? I agree with BabyBoy. If it's something that can be fixed, again, why not? You already said you feel exes should remain exes. It sounds like it's your call. I say go for it. Of course it can work out. It can go either way. Good luck to you and I hope it works out. Let us know.

wolfgangqpublic · Feb 2, 2009, 08:54 AM

Odds are, they don't work out. But there are exceptions.

Romefalls19 · Feb 2, 2009, 09:08 AM

The odds are greatly not in your favor and even less in your favor if you think the problems that broke you two up the first time can be swept under the rug and act like they never happened. Through communication and problem solving it can be achieved but it's not likely.

odilians10 · Feb 2, 2009, 09:22 AM

I'm not asking for myself is a friend of mine who wants to get back with an ex boyfriend, which I don't support, especially she is going through a lot of stress in her life right now, I think she is just looking for comfort right now but will soon realize it when her mind clears up..

UnluckyDucky · Feb 2, 2009, 09:28 AM

Every relationship is unique; unfortunately there's no one-size-fits-all litmus test of whether there's a chance of it working out or not.

Best thing you can do is keep doing what you're doing and be there for your friend in their time of need. When their thoughts start to clear up they may realize they broke up for a good reason after all.

Alty · Feb 2, 2009, 10:31 AM

The one fact about relationships is, never say never. Can you get back together with an ex and make it work, sure, but it's not likely.

talaniman · Feb 2, 2009, 03:12 PM

Chances of working it out with an ex

1 in a million.

SAB123 · Feb 2, 2009, 03:12 PM

It's been 2 years since my ex fiancé broke up with me and the 5 years we were together she broke up with me 6 times. So yes ex's come back but if they have issues it's not going to work.

odilians10 · Feb 7, 2009, 06:02 PM

I have a friend who's been in a relationship for 7yrs and asked her boyfriend a yr ago to tell her if he's ready to make a commitment for marriage he was suppose to tell her in jan but told her he would let her know in feb. it is feb now and he has not said anything yet. What should she do now?? Send your opinion...

Alty · Feb 7, 2009, 06:07 PM

Wow, commitment with a deadline.

Why couldn't he tell her right away? Why the wait?

It seems like he's not ready for a long term commitment, if he was then he wouldn't have to think about it.

So the choice is hers, wait until he's ready or move on.

odilians10 · Feb 7, 2009, 06:27 PM

Thanks that is a good point I'll let her know

Justwantfair · Feb 7, 2009, 06:49 PM

I have been in a committed relationship for five years. Pushing for marriage will not have any advantage except to drive a wedge in the relationship. Commitment phobia is a common occurrence in men and some women.

She has to decide if she loves him and what she wants, if she is not willing to wait any longer then she needs to move on. If she loves him, she has to accept this issue and work with him through it or accept him just the way he is. It's really her decision to make.

Why does she want him to marry her when she is having to force or ultimatum him into the marriage. Plenty of people get cold feet, how will she feel if her big push just ends the relationship in disaster because he is not ready?

zeeniee · Feb 7, 2009, 07:12 PM

I agree, putting a time line on something like marriage can actually push a person away.

It seems like the two involved are not on the same page with their relationship.. she is keen to take it to the next step and he obviously is not ready.

Best advice= COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION AND COMMUNICATION.
Only this way will she know what her man is thinking and wanting out of this relationship.

neverme · Feb 7, 2009, 09:53 PM

Yeah nothing says romance and love like a deadline!

odilians10 · Feb 8, 2009, 06:57 AM

Never been married and are both in their 40's and 50's I try to tell her but she thinks starting over with someone else is very hard

neverme · Feb 8, 2009, 07:04 AM

Why does she have to start over?

Is she that desperate for a ring on her finger?

Because if she forces this guy, or any other guy, into marrying her that's all it will be, a ring on her finger, no real commitment.

Tell her to relax and enjoy the fact that she has someone special to share her life with. THAT is precious and shouldn't be thrown away because she wants status or security.