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    Feb 1, 2009, 07:16 PM
    Still feeling hurt by ex boyfriend
    Dating him is a disastrous mistake in my life. I wish I never met a guy like him again. I asked my current boyfriend over and over again whether he really loves me. It was all because I got hurt badly in last relationship. My boyfriend told me that he loves me, and he felt sorry I had trouble with the past.
    But I just wanted to know how to know whether a guy I am dating is mature, how to know he is not a taker and player, and how to know a guy cares about his girl and would like to take care of her.
    I am a girl with a sensitive heart and sometimes really needy. When I took a psychology quiz, the result said that I am very caring and might be taken advantage by those immature guys who want a mother-like love. But I need to be cared about and loved too. I want my rest of life to avoid those immature guys. I was hurt by ex and almost hurt to be dead.
    I just want to be sure my current boyfriend is not that type.
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    Feb 1, 2009, 07:21 PM
    I know things hurt but honestly how long ago did you and your ex break up? Also one of the biggest things in a relationship is all about trust, it seems to me that you really don't trust him knowing his feelings. I think what you need to do is have more time to yourself to heal. It really isn't fair for him if he does care about you and if you keep nagging him wondering if he cares and loves you. Have you guys been together long?
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    Feb 1, 2009, 07:25 PM

    I broke up with ex about a year and half ago. And with my current boyfriend for several months. I love him. But whenever I remember my ex, I cry for a whole night.
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    Feb 1, 2009, 07:28 PM
    Yeah well look, honestly you need to be alone and work things out between yourself. It isn't fair for him or you. You need to find who you are and become stronger. I really don't think you ready for a relationship right now. Just give yourself some time.
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    Feb 1, 2009, 10:17 PM

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    Very insecure is more your problem, and I suspect your in this just to have someone.

    You are obviously trying to replace an ex, you have never gotten over. You will eventually drive this guy crazy projecting those old feelings into this new relationship, so be warned to get some control over your feelings and emotions, and deal with them in a healthy positive way..
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    Feb 1, 2009, 10:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by DJ28 View Post
    i think what you need to do is have more time to yourself to heal.
    Exactly!
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    Feb 1, 2009, 11:33 PM

    I think if you've been with your current boyfriend for several months and he continues to reassure you, then he's for real. However, like what the others have said before me, you need to work on your insecurities...
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