[lstbyscout]

How do I go about giving up my parental rights, I can't see my daughter and I get harassing text messages from her mother, she does not want me in my daughters life what should I do? I never denied my child, I'm stuck

[this8384]

You're not stuck in any way. Is there a custody and visitation order in place? If not, then you need to file and get one immediately. Regardless of what your child's mother tells you, your daughter needs you in her life; that's the bottom line.

[JudyKayTee]

how do i go about giving up my parental rights, I can't see my daughter and i get harassing text messages from her mother, she does not want me in my daughters life what should i do? i never denied my child, im stuck

You go to Court and get an order for visitation and, if the mother is unfit, custody. The non-custodial parent gets a support order.

Then if either one of you doesn't comply it's a contempt of court action.

What is the mother harassing you about? Do you pay support?

You don't have to see the child if you don't want to. If you have Court ordered visitation, use it. If you don't, get it. You do have a legal obligation to support the child. You do not have to have contact with the mother.

[mmhrmeij]

how do i go about giving up my parental rights, I can't see my daughter and i get harassing text messages from her mother, she does not want me in my daughters life what should i do? i never denied my child, im stuck

First of all I am the mother that this NON-FATHER of the YEAR is referring to. I have never sent him any harassing text messages because I do not care to deal with him unless there is court appointed supervision involved. If anything I have been receiving the text messages which I do have documentation and proof.

As far as MY daughter, he has not seen her since she was 6 days old (March 08), she will be a 1yr old soon. Now that a price tag of child support and backsupport of thousands of dollars JUST started in Jan 2009. He now all of a sudden wants to see her or give up parental rights. Unbelievable.

There have been 3 court orders sent when child support was being issued and not one time has he shown up at court to answer the summons and has been noted by the court that he has received two of the documents. So it was his fault he has not received any visitation because of his own ignorance and scare for the law.

Until he files for child visitation in the TN court system, he will not receive visitation of my daughter because I feel he is an unfit (do to the nature of his lifestyle and past) and an unstable (homeless) parent who needs a psychiatric evaluation by the court to proceed with visitation of MY daughter. I will not subject MY daugther to this type of atmosphere until he can show he is a fit and stable parent.

[Fr_Chuck]

Assuming your post is real,

If there is a court ordered visititation already on the books, it is valid and he can take the mother back to court for contempt if she does not allow visits.

Unless the mother has went to court and got the old court ordered modified then it is still valid.

Merely his failure to pay support does not stop his rights to his visitation.
So if the mother wants to stop visits, she needs to file to change the current terms of visits, merely saying no, is not legal

So the father will have to take the mother to court ( which ever court has jursidiction) where the current court order is in place, unless they agree to move it.

And it is not really the mothers choice if he is a fit or stable parent, it is the courts, plus even if he is a danger, he will get at least supervised visits.

[mmhrmeij]

assuming your post is real,

If there is a court ordered visititation already on the books, it is valid and he can take the mother back to court for contempt if she does not allow visits.

Unless the mother has went to court and got the old court ordered modified then it is still valid.

Merely his failure to pay support does not stop his rights to his visitation.
So if the mother wants to stop visits, she needs to file to change the current terms of visits, merely saying no, is not legal

So the father will have to take the mother to court ( which ever court has jursidiction) where the current court order is in place, unless they agree to move it.

And it is not really the mothers choice if he is a fit or stable parent, it is the courts, plus even if he is a danger, he will get at least supervised visits.

Yes this is a REAL post. Thank you very much sir.

Obviously you did not read what I wrote. Lstbyscout was referring to me (mother of his daughter) and I decided to rebut his statement.

There is NO order of visitation on the books. When he did not show up at court the 3 times he was summoned for child support AND visitation, the judge almost put him in contempt but she decided against it and suggested he file his own visitation with the court since he hasn't shown up for any of the court appearances.

He has NEVER wanted to see his daughter until child support was ordered in Jan 09. I reached out in the very beginning of my daughters life and there was always NO time, no response and excuse after excuse. I am very well-educated single parent who has been taking care of this child all this time (daycare and life necessities) by myself and feel no matter how the parents feel about each other... its not about us its about the child.

Instead of fighting for his right as a father, he wants to take the easy way out give up parental rights and get out of paying child support and his parental responsibility. He will have to have a GOOD family law lawyer and just cause to give up parental rights according to T.C.A. § 36-1-102 and §§ 36-1-113(g)-(h), 37-1-166(g)(4).

You are right the court has to decide if he is unstable and unfit. I have burden of proof of this matter. Supervision will be requested by myself to the court for visitation if it gets this far.

[ScottGem]

Yes this is a REAL post. Thank you very much sir.

Obviously you did not read what I wrote. Lstbyscout was referring to me (mother of his daughter) and I decided to rebut his statement.

My question is how can you know that? The situation indicated by the OP is not that uncommon. So how can you be sure that it was posted by the father of your daughter?

The advice given the OP is basic family law. If you believe that you can fight him in court then why did you feel the need to refute an anonymous posting?

That's why there is skeptism about your post.

[mmhrmeij]

My question is how can you know that? The situation indicated by the OP is not that uncommon. So how can you be sure that it was posted by the father of your daughter?

The advice given the OP is basic family law. If you believe that you can fight him in court then why did you feel the need to refute an anonymous posting?

That's why there is skeptism about your post.

This is his user name for EVERYTHING and it was sent to me by someone close to him.

[JudyKayTee]

This is NOT a message board and this entire exchange is totally inappropriate. Thread should be closed.

Let these two "adults" fight it out somewhere else.

[mmhrmeij]

This is NOT a message board and this entire exchange is totally inappropriate. Thread should be closed.

Let these two "adults" fight it out somewhere else.

As it will be

[ScottGem]

This is his user name for EVERYTHING and it was sent to me by someone close to him.

OK, but I have to agree with Judy, this is not a place to fight out a custody issue. You obviously have a great deal of animosity towards the OP. But that doesn't really justify your posts.

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