[cori77]

My sister told me that she found my husband's public Facebook page. I didn't even know he had one. She showed it to me and I noticed that in the photos section, he does not have any photos of me. He posted photos of himself on our vacation to the Bahamas- photos that I took of him. I noticed that he cropped me out of photos that we took together at a friend's birthday get together. He makes no mention that he is married on his page. There are photos of him with his friends (male and female) along with a few photos of our newborn son. Not a trace of me though. On my myspace page, I have tons of photos of us together on vacations, family gatherings, and with our son. He has these photos also, so why doesn't he post them on his page? I don't know what to make of this. My sister showed me photos posted in her male friends' pages and her husbands page and they all have photos of their wives or girlfriends or at least make mention that they are married or in a relationship. We got married a month before our son was born because we felt it was the right thing to do- to bring a child into a marriage. We were both excited about the marriage and the baby, but inside I resented that he made me wait a month before the baby was born to get married. He said he wanted to save up for my ring. He refuses to wear the ring that I bought for him because he says that he hates jewelry. I don't know what to think? I am asking for honest opinions (especially from men) as to what they think is going on. Is he hiding me? Could he be cheating on me? I don't know if it's normal for a married or committed man to not make any mention of their significant other on Facebook. He doesn't know that I know about his page.

[nitelight198073]

Wow that is tough... I feel that he is may be trying to get females to talk to him on his Facebook... I like you post on every site that I am happily married and have picture of my husband and also show all my friends on the net picks of my husband and child... so I feel that he is definitely hiding something... to make you wait to get married and not to wear his ring... man that just gives me bad vibes

[Fr_Chuck]

Many men do not wear rings if they work around machinary.

Yes, he should be bragging about you, showing you off, his behavior is ot normal for a person acting married

[nike 1]

Yes, he is hiding something, he hid the Facebook thing from you. When you are in love with a woman, you want the world to know it. Not wearing his ring is a sign he doesn't want other women to know he is married. If he hasn't cheated yet, he is well on his way. I would confront him about this asap.

[cori77]

Many men do not wear rings if they work around machinary.

Yes, he should be bragging about you, showing you off, his behavior is ot normal for a person acting married

My husband is an accountant so he can wear jewelry, but states that he doesn't like to. My sister thinks that he is either cheating on me or that he just was not ready to get married. I don't have any proof he is cheating. He usually works late because of his position and now that we are in tax season, he will be working late more often. I am so confused. This does not feel normal to me, but he says he's happy.

[sylvan_1998]

I am not so sure that the fact he is "hiding" you is the real problem. More so he is not acknowledging you which from your description, sounds as if this is a sympton of him never truly committing to you. One note, I am not sure of your sister's intentions here. I do not know her and could be really wrong, but by showing you how everyone else's husband is, could she be stirring up trouble?

The fact that is does not feel normal to you is very important. I always say you should trust your gut. Open communication and a counselor would help you and him explore all of this in a fair controlled setting.

Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers

[hollylovesbrandon]

If he simply didn't have pictures of you on his page that wouldn't bother me too much but that fact that you are BLACKED OUT in his pictures raises seceral red flags

* Is he cheating? Probably not yet but he might be regretting getting married and looking for that opportunity to arrise. Clearly he is willing to lie about being married

* Is he a liar? Yes. I believe that has been established. He never told you about his page. He is hiding that fact that you are his wife and that you even exist! He's living as if you never happened. I'm sure he's lying to these girls that are sending him messages. As I said before, he might not have cheated yet, but I think he will when he gets a chance

* Should you tell him you found his page? Absolutely. Sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him you feel not acknowledged and ignored and want to know why. If he is cheating or thinking about cheating maybe you could stop it before it starts. No marriage can move forward without open, honest communication.

I think you should relax about the ring. Some men just don't wear jewelry you know. My husband doesn't. That's just how he is.

[andrewc24301]

Well, it's clear that he is "hiding" you on that page. The real question here is why.

I think it's confrontation time. Just walk up and ask him, what's the deal here!?

Because to me, it smells like he's trying to lead a "double life". Where as he may be totally committed to you in the real world, but likes to flirt, "cyber" share pics, what ever with those in the cyber world.

The only concern is, sometimes these cyber romances can quickly escillate into real world romances.

Be on your toes.

[andrewc24301]

Oh, and about the ring, sometimes I don't wear mine. It just forget to put it on. But I'm not messing around with anyone.

And yes my wife gets on me for it...

[Rose2010]

I am married and have a Facebook page that I opened before I was married. I never update the page so it appears that I am single as well. I am not very comfortable with Facebook and sharing all of my life with so many "friends". So I was wondering if your husband may be like me. Did he have the page set up a long time ago and just doesn't post to it. Is the picture he has of the two of you that you are cropped out of from a long time ago, when he might have considered himself more single?

I really think you should ask him directly about his Facebook page. I think if he is always posting to it like some do and has not included you and his child then, something is definitely wrong. Most husbands and dads are really proud.

I should also say that my husband also has a Facebook page, but has almost no pictures as he hardly uses it. In fact he hasn't used it since before we were married and there are no pictures of us... I never really thought of it until reading your post. It may not be a big deal after all.

Good luck!

[blissfulRaq]

I am experiencing the same thing.. I got married 3 months ago, to a 27 year old indian who's base in australia. We met online and became friends for one year, till he proposed.Months passed he never mention about the wedding again. During our first meeting I made sure Ill be his wife. I got what I want but the thing is, He never told his family about me, things we're smooth at first but became complicated for us especially when he visited his family in india. I was not allowed to call him. And that thing really hurts me, when he made call he needs to hide himself inside the toilet or went outside so nobody could hear him. It's a painful thing for me. He bought me a ticket to follow him in india, but the set up is I will just be staying in hotel and he will introduce me to his family as his friend.. My heart is bleeding. Today I had enough of everything, I let him go. Told him I married a wrong man, and I had regrets I was crying,. All I wanted is a simple kind of life... and to sum it up, I know this is what I got for being stubborn, I was warned by my pastor but still... Now my heart is aching...