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    Jan 13, 2009, 09:47 PM
    Harassment in the workplace
    I'm not sure I am under the right topic, but since this is happening at work and by my supervisor, I decided this was the best option. My supervisor seems to be targeting me for no reason. In one of her emails to me she said she could have "team booked" me and humilliated me beyond believe in the eyes of my co-workers. Can you tell me what Team booking is? I can't imagine it is a good thing, but I can not find a definition anywhere.
    I've asked 3 times to sit down and talk with her to discuss what's changed to cause the problems between us, but she's refused. At this point I am just documenting everything to make sure I have proof I am not in the wrong.

    One other question, is it unethical to record her or my co-worker when they start yelling at me? This all started when I reported a co-worker making threatening glares and comments to me. He has done this in the past and the other person left the company and states in her resignation it was because nothing was done about the harassment against her. Now it's happening to me and the same supervisor, instead of doing something is angry I've brought it to her attention. Do I go to her boss or do I get the tone and volume of the comments first so it's not he said/she said?

    Thank you,

    Lindsay
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    Jan 14, 2009, 01:06 AM

    Hi, Lindsay!

    In my opinion, I think that you're going to need some concrete evidence to report and/or complain about things to others who might be able to do something about what has happened and might happen. The fact that you're documenting things is good. You might also also try to have a witness with you when you do speak with your supervisor.

    As far as emails are concerned, if a response is required as part of your job, then you could respond and also send a c.c. to someone else.

    I'm not sure what "Team Booking" is either.

    What were the circumstance that brought about glares and negative comments being made by another person, please? It would be helpful to know about those things.

    In the meantime, and to preserve your job, I would suggest being as professional as possible, a positive and pro-active example for others to follow and to make yourself indispensable at your job.

    Hopefully, others will also be along to address your question.

    Thanks!
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    Jan 14, 2009, 03:05 PM
    It is a long story, but I will do my best to keep it short. The co-worker that has a problem with me is homosexual. I have never said anything to him or anyone else about there sexuality, but he believes that because of my religious beliefs I am against his choices. I know this because he has said it and wrote to a mutual friend that he has a problem with "anyone associated with a religion against gays." I don't talk about my religious beliefs at work but people know I'm a Christian.
    He's constantly coming up with reasons to argue with me. He was incharge of the birthday fund and was decorating desks. When it was time to decorate my desk, he came to me and told me I could decorate my own desk in a nasty tone. When planning that months party, he asked what I'd like on the menu and then left it off. Okay, I can deal with that.
    Three guys got into a loud discussion and started making comments about gays, on the opposite side of the office from me. Saying, "you called me sweetheart..I feel threatened...I need to go home, I feel harrassed." His supervisor was laughing.
    We have a problem with the tempeture in our office, my desk is really cold when the open the door. That day I was already bundled in a man's coat to try and warm up. He came over and told me he was opening the door because he had burned his food and I would have to accept it. I told him I was already bundled and freezing. He opened the door, bent towards me with his eyes glaring and his voice lowered and argued. This is the posture he uses each time he threatens a woman in the office. It's that or he stands over us and yells. If our supervisor is there, she claims she didn't hear or see it, even when she was the closest to the incident.
    That day no supervisor was there because after he made fun of gays, he left to go on a bike ride (while still on the clock).
    There are two supervisors obviously, both are unethical, but both cover for each other. And neither want to do anything about this guy. He was told after the last girl left if another verifiable accusation was made, he'd be fired. If they hadn't treated her the same way they are treating me, I'd say they just don't want to verify it. Honestly, they are acting no different. They harassed her and he harassed her until she quit. I don't have another job so I don't have that option.
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    Jan 14, 2009, 03:14 PM
    Just to clarify... the comments on the other side of the office was made w/in an hour of the harrassement about the door. I just thought I'd tell you there is a link. He can't confront the men. The door argument happens on a regular basis. He knows that it makes the desk so cold I get sick.
    We have less desks than we have people, so even though I've asked to be moved, it hasn't happened.
    This became an issue with the supervisor. The supervisor that has a problem with me told me she has bigger issues than me when I told her about the situation of the door (and she has witnessed the past issues and even given me advise such as, wear warmer clothes if you're getting so sick sitting there). The other supervisor promised me I'd be moved within a week. A week and a half later I was told with in a month. That time has not passed, so we will see.

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