[susananne]

And why would woman be more Drama than men.. that is a stereotype. I know lots of men who fill their days with drama of one kind or another... and lots of woman that are not interested in drama at all.

[Synnen]

I think you shouldn't decide who to be intimate with until you've had a stable relationship with that person, whether the relationship is "romantic" or "friendship" or whatever.

How can you decide to be intimate with someone before you know them on other levels?

And yes, that was my experience, and I was putting it here because the OP asked about women and their experience with attraction to other women.

I just think that people should be more discriminating in general BEFORE they crawl into bed with someone--whether or not that leads to a romantic relationship is up to BOTH parties--but there should at least be SOME form of relationship already there that involves trust and communication.

[susananne]

And just out of curiousity.. where would a gray person's sexuality stand. Does that mean anyone even curious... then on that we agree. What I was saying about seeing lots of purple people was.. most people are ashamed to admit their True sexual feelings... not just the fantsies

[susananne]

Synnen.. are you saying that you consider a stable relationship one that involves no intimacy first?? Just a question!

[Bonita--]

Bonita..if you would consider intimate relations with a woman..why not a relationship...just curious...thanks

I'm just not into women in that way. I've never had feelings for a woman the way I do for a man. I like the way some women look, I'm physically attracted to them but that's about it. If I was to have sex with another woman, I would still want a man there, at least watching us.

[Synnen]

Synnen..are you saying that you consider a stable relationship one that involves no intimacy first???Just a question!

I'm saying that intimacy is MORE than sex.

It's trust, communication, liking a person, respect--a LOT of things that can be simply a friendship but could lead to more than a friendship.

I think my relationship is pretty stable--we've been together 13 years, and have been married for 7.5 of those years. He started as my FRIEND though, and I wasn't hopping into his bed until I liked, respected and trusted him--which gave him more respect for me in the end.

Intimacy has EVERYTHING to do with sex--but is NOT sex itself.

As far as a gray person's sexuality--I just personally do not believe that ANYONE is completely gay or completely straight. EVERYONE has had at least one thought about the same sex--or has had thoughts about the opposite sex. I think the right circumstance and the right person could mean a lot to a person's sexuality, regardless what they think their sexual orientation actually IS. So--since no one is "black" or "white" in regards to sexuality, but a mix of the 2--then everyone is gray.

[Justwantfair]

I think that the question was a simple do women fantasize about the possibility of engaging in a sexual encounter with another woman.

I don't think it was a question to determine the moral perimeters of such a encounter. I think it is common for women to fantasize about being intimate with another woman but not in the aspect of wanting to make a lifestyle change.

[Curlyben]

>Thread Closed<

To remind Susananne, and others, AMHD is NOT a chat site and as such threads will be closed if they diverge from the original question.
Same applies to posting disparaging comments.

That being said we don't want to stiffle discussion, but there are boards specifically set up for that.