[vette283]

I'd had a relationship with a gal a I met at the gym. She moved 800 miles away to a different job after our 2nd date. W've been texting each other and seeing each other every other month. This distance thing really sucks. I traveled to be with her several times and she in turn and come down and stayed with me for a week at a time. I admitt in the beginning she was just a friend and we have had some great times together. I'm a bit old fashion and slowly started falling in love with her. I notice the last 4 months things seemed different. I didn't get the quick response to my text messages and I didn't feel her soul and heart in the messages that I had received over the many proceeding months. I made a 4 day vacation trip to see her in November 2008 and felt something was different but couldn't put my finger on what it was that bothered me. I got back home and a week later on a Sunday night late late, I knew she wanted to go on a trip with me to the west coast so I texted her to let me know the next day when I could call and we would set the trip up for her to come. 30 minutes after I texted the message I got a rely that said "She's busy those 2 weeks. She says good bye. Chris. This was all send back on her phone. She had to be with Chris late nite at his place. I tried to call back and couldn't get an answer. The true is she's been dating or seeing this Chris for the last 3 months. I was floored to say the least! of course I trusted this gal and felt if she wanted to date others she could have told me. The distance thing has been a problem. She's tried to transferr back to this area several times but so far its all failed. I don't believe she's a totally bad person but my heart and soul have been broken. Can these types of break ups ever work out. Looks like from my research everybody says "move on"!! Does anybody have a different view. I' m open to any constructive suggestions. I don't believe she wanted the relationship to end with me. I've remained claim and with no contact to her for the past month. I do not know if I'll ever hear from her again? Usually out of mind means there's no love. The Bear

[confessions21]

OK in cases like this. Most of the time they don't work out but if you really love her and she feels the same way about you then there is a chance it could work but it won't be easy, have you thought about maybe if she has tried to move back and has failed that you should try to relocate. A women never wants to be alone they may seem like it but they don't women need that warm comfort from someone. This chris guy might be spending a lot of time with her when you don't see her.. in the end we can say all we want about your problem and give opinons and advice but when its all said and done you need to make a choice. Go with what you feel. If you think you both can make it work then go for it but if you have doubt about trying then don't barther cause its always going to be in the back of your mind, if she's with someone else when your not around.

[vette283]

I've not tried to make any contact at this point. She may be in this area to visit her mother the first 2 weeks of January 2009. Again, I've not had contact with her since I found out about this Chris. Is there any certain time which its OK to try and make contact.
I don't want to loose positive by looking like I'm chasing or pursuing. I'm told women usually get curious and go after what they think they con't have. A bit of reverse phy. Any thoughts of stratagy!

[confessions21]

You know it was done to me before where my partner text me by mistake, my partner thought the text was being sent to someone else but really it was sent to me I confronted my partner about it right away and my partner felt like crap... this happen in the beginning and never happened again now we are married and happy. Just keep it real with her most of all keep it real with yourself.

[talaniman]

Sorry you had to go through this but chalk it up as a learning experience, and just let it go, as for whatever reason, the distance kills you, as its seldom enough, and you never really had time to build anything solid anyway. Move on, and relax, there is plenty of local things to do.