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    dahlialine Posts: 14, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 20, 2008, 09:54 PM
    broke NC rule. Ex still has feelings for me. Confused!
    so it's been a while since we broke up.. about 3 months.
    we've gone through different stages, of ignoring each other, talking, flirting, NC..

    I decided to go with NC in order to get better and move on for the new year, and I was doing good for about two weeks. He didn't try to contact me, either. Then one day he randomly tried to talk to me, at first I didn't, but in the end I gave in.

    Sometimes he would leave hints that he still has feelings for me. Friends and his family tell me that he misses being with me but is just stressed with family issues and school.
    He was never very social, but now goes out and parties with his buddies all the time.
    he says he doesn't know what he wants now, and misses me, and wishes something would happen..

    what am I supposed to do?
    go back to NC?
    or talk to him occasionally.. because I know he still has feelings for me, and is just confused?

    help please!
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    jmw0713 Posts: 1,012, Reputation: 305
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    Dec 21, 2008, 08:50 AM

    You do what you want to do.

    I decided to go with NC in order to get better and move on for the new year
    I think you already know.

    If he really misses you, he will make the move.. unless you were the one who did the breaking-up. Then it would be on you to make the move.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Dec 21, 2008, 10:34 AM
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search...archid=3499274
    Of course you have feelings for each other, but relationships aren't just based on feelings, and he is an ex for a reason.

    Do you go back to that, or is there something that has changed that makes it better this time around?

    Decisions should be about facts, not just feelings, and that is what No Contact gives you.

    You really need more No Contact, just because your confused by listening to his words.

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