[eddyluvskneesox]

My girlfriend thinks I need a Psychiatrist for the following reasons. I went to catholic school and ever since then I love to see girls/women in skirts and knee high socks. In general while were out I look at other women. When were not together I browse porn on the internet and masturbate. On occasions when sightseeing and I have a camera I'll take a picture of women that maybe walking by or near by. Is this normal or do I need help? I told her that it's not a big deal and it's not something that I do all the time. She feels that I need Psychiatric help, what do you suggest? I'm 47 male.

[southerngalps]

I see no problem with the skirts and knee highs. If you are watching porn and masturbating all the time, that may be a problem because it may make your girl feel useless.

I think you should quit taking pictures of women you don't know.

That would make me feel uncomfortable as well.

[Fr_Chuck]

A lot of men have fantisy of school girls, it is knowing the difference of a adult dressed up and a actual child. If you have the hots for a 15 year old, yes you need help, if you want your 30 something girl friend to dress up that is closer to normal. There are cheer leader outfits ( normally the most popular) to vampire to super hero and more. Not odd at all.

Ok, if you are with your girl friend and you stop and take photos of other girls, it shows a lack of concern of her feelings and a lack of perhaps social interaction skills.

While I don't believe porn serves any purpose, it can be a issue if you are doing it "all the time" since it can effect your actual performace in bed.

[KBC]

The knee socks and short dresses/skirts,big deal,that's not outside the box.

Picture taking of innocents can be misconstrued easily,might be questionable.That might be a valid complaint for most people.

Online porn isn't all that bad either. To each his own(and masturbation while in porn,normal by most porn surfers.)

A psychiatrist might want to explore the picture taking and looking at the women while with your girlfriend.

Hope this helps,

KBC

[eddyluvskneesox]

Ok thanks for the feedback. I'd like to clear up a few things though. When I'm with her I'm not walking up to people and taking their pictures. It's more like I'm taking a picture of a beach or a monument or something like that and a girl walks into my view finder, rather than wait or move I'll snap a shot. I can always delete the photo later. This may generate 1 or 2 photos out of 100's. Secondly the masturbating and porn isn't always lets say a few times a week. The looking at girls isn't like right in front of her but more like on her way back from the bathroom I might be casually looking at someone sitting at the bar, or a waitress walking by. I'm not going to cover my head with a bag when she's not around.

[KBC]

On occasions when sightseeing and I have a camera I'll take a picture of women that maybe walking by or near by.

We aren't attacking you eddy,we just addressed the question you asked.

If the picture taking is an issue for her,and you want her to stop bugging you about it,\...

I suggested that it might be a problem for you as you had it in your question,IF this is a non issue, why did you have it in the original question?

Just trying to help you see the question from our perspective.

[8120joy]

Hmmm, I don't really know if this will help... If you went to a Catholic School (and if your family are strong catholics) it may because you were taught that this is wrong to look at women, or to find women attractive, masturbate, look at porn etc and if you're thinking its wrong and therfore fun... then maybe that's why. I don't think you need psychiatric help, it would be a natural reaction if your upbriging was strongly Catholic and your personality type enjoys rebelling... I don't know if that's the problem... let me know if this is relevant...

[spitvenom]

Picture taking thing is a little strange, but who doesn't love a girl in knee high socks and a mini shirt.

[liz28]

It seems like you have something called a fetish. Many people have desires for different things and view things differently. I sometimes call my fiancé a pervert when were watching a movie or TV and he makes comments about someone boobs but I be joking with him when I say that.

I think a pervert is someone that do or what to do something with someone underage or have nothing to do what themselve accept look at girls.

Maybe what you should do for now on is that whenever your taking a picture and someone is walking by, let them past before snaping the photo.

Also, how many hours a day do you look at porn? If it isn't excessive it is okay but if your doing it a lot you might have an addiction. Also, maybe your girlfriend doesn't like porn and view it a form of cheating.