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    michelle0911 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 24, 2008, 10:06 AM
    Missing My Ex
    Here's my situation: Current Boyfriend (CB) Ex Boyfriend (EX)

    Im currently in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months. Everything is good we even live together. We had a rocky start since I had a habit to stay talking with my past ex boyfriends since we ended it in good terms. My current boyfriend didn't like that at all. But I still missed my ex boyfriend. I miss my ex boyfriend that I was with before CB. I was with my EX for about 7 months we broke up due to his jealousy. He wanted to put his foot down and I didn't like that. So we broke up he didn't want it to be over. He was really in love with me. So I pushed him away and started dating my CB. But as time progressed I started to miss EX and dream of him etc. so I found my way to talk to him only as friends on myspace. We talked for about a month. And I missed him so much but I knew we couldn't be together cause I was with some CB. So I cheated with CB with EX. But I couldn't leave CB. So I told EX we can't do this anymore it wasn't right. So he went and told CB so he broke up with me and I lied and told him EX was just being crazy for the fact I was with CB and I wasn't with him anymore. So we settle things down and got back with CB. Things were really tough since CB always thought I was doing stuff behind his back. (sheesh I wouldn't blame him I would have been the same). A few months have passed and once again my feelings for EX were coming back. I missed him a lot and I started to talk to him as friends. I went through a crisis I found out I was adopted and I didn't know who to talk to so I called EX up to talk about things. He knew where I was coming from and understanded me completely. Once again I cheated. I felt terrible since I did this to CB again. But the bad thing about it was I thought I was pregnant and I was having all kinds of symptoms. I was freaking out. Cause I knew it was going to be EX's. So I told him I can't do this anymore and he was like why? And I told him because I think I'm pregnant and it might be yours. So I stopped talking to him blocked him from myspace and changed my number. Then EX gets a hold of CB and tells him all what was going on and once again I lied. I told him my coworker is friends with him and told him everything I was going through that's why he knows everything in great detail. He believed me. SOO pretty much a few months have passed CB has tried to break up with me. For the reason he can't get over all the drama I put him through. But we come to an agreement and we stayed together. But my friend sends me a message on myspace telling me EX misses me and wants to talk to me. I put my foot down and told her I CANT! Even though I want to IM NOT! I need to be strong for my relationship with CB. But deep down inside I want to talk to him. I want to see him. BUT I KNOW I CANT! I think that's why I'm missing him again for the fact I'm telling myself I cant. Can someone please give me some advice. Thanks
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Nov 24, 2008, 11:57 AM

    I advise you to give CB his freedom, to find someone who can give him things you can't. Honesty, loyalty, and be worthy of his trust. Things you know nothing about.

    So are you pregnant?
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    Nov 24, 2008, 12:50 PM

    Break up with CB because you aren't good for him. You can't stay loyal, untrustworthy, can't commit and he deserves better than that
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    Nov 24, 2008, 12:56 PM

    This sounds exactly how my life is right now. Up until the part where you told EX you couldn't see him anymore. I broke up with my CB and am back together with my EX now. I realized that I was not being fair and did not love my boyfriend anymore. We did not trust each other anymore because of things both of us had done. I was with him for three years before I could finally end it. Now I am happy and glad to be back together with my ex. Hope this helps!
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    Nov 24, 2008, 01:41 PM

    You need to be alone, and with neither of them, and get your act together. You need to figure out, as others have already said, how to be loyal and honest. You are another contributor to the reason that people come on this site with broken hearts. It is your poor decision making, ungratefulness, and lack of respect for others, which has put you in the situation you are in, and until you can figure out how to correct those things, you don't deserve to be with anyone right now. So why don't you come clean to both of them, let both of them out of your life, and then most importantly, come clean with yourself and be honest to yourself and accept the responsibility for your actions, and then try starting your love life on a new foot.

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