[Dud]

I am currently in 8th grade, I am a guy, and this is my story:

Jack and I were best friends for a very long time. He and I would always hang out together and stuff. In the 5th grade he started hanging out with jocks. I was always left and never noticed when he hung out with them. Well, I thought things would get better, but they didn't. He still does hang out with these jocks, which is ok; he can have other friends, but he and I started to not know each other as much.

In 7th grade we got into a fight. Things actually got better for a while and we apoligized to each other, but now in 8th grade he has his new best friend "Alex" and whenever I sit at the lunch table, all I hear is "Hey Alex, want to come over to my house and play video games?" or something like that.

It really bugs me how he switched so suddenly and acts like he doesn't know me, I try to talk to him but he always has his other friends around him. It almost seems like he has them there to avoid me. I seriously don't know why he is doing this to me, I always try to find out why he acts like I don't exist, we knew each other so well before he started hanging out with all of those popular kids, and then I was forgotten.

You may ask what the fight in 7th grade was about... well it was about why he didn't talk to me as much and why he ignored me. He is acually one of the most popular kids in 8th grade now. All I ever hear anymore at the lunch table is "Alex, Alex, Alex..."

Please answer if you know any solutions. Thank you.

[xxariesxx]

I'm sorry to hear you're going through that, that's tough :(

It sounds like Jack is enjoying his popularity. I imagine that he feels really good about making all of those new friends and being the well-liked guy. But it's still no excuse for him to act like you don't exist or blow you off, especially if you were friends for so long. You deserve better than that.

But hey I remember middle school, and that happened to me too with my best friend. She became the popular girl and I was pretty much left in the dust.
But I moved on and made new, and definitely better, friends who enjoyed my company and who I didn't feel like I had to compete with in order to be noticed.

It's all right to hold on to the good memories you and Jack had together and to be nice to him and polite, but I would stop trying so hard to be his friend and put that energy into making new friends who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

[godsbabygirl267]

Hey, I know its tough when your best friend abandons you. Actually, it kind of sucks. The best you can hope for is that he will realize that you are his friend and that he should hang out with you more than he does. Assuming the worst case scenario, then you will have to push a little bit to get what you want.

You might try inviting him over for the weekend or getting to know his friends so that you can float around in the same circle.

Never forget that you can't force someone to be friends with you. You can only live, learn, and hope for the best.

Don't wait around forever for him to change, it never seems to do any one any good.

I hope you two can patch things up, but if you can not, then by gosh you have to make new friends. Friends who treat you right and who love you for you, not who you once were or could be.