[J_9]

I agree with EVERY answer you have so far. Just remember your nephew needs you right now too. Keep him as your focus and things may be easier for your.

[Wildcat21]

This just shows how blinded people can be by staying is a bad relationship. It's shear punishment to try and continue something that shouldn't be. It's really unhealthy tostay in a relationship that doesn't work. And this one is a mess.

[Chery]

Your investing time and emotions again. Does he realize what is going on? Could it be that he's the type that wants his cake and eat it too?
This is stressing you out, and not phasing him... it's time to tell him how YOU feel about this whole situation and then let him take the 'ball' for a while. He should not take advantage of you like this. If you get money for what you do for him, consider it a job, but quit as soon as you can. If you don't get any reimbursement at all, financial or emotional then get the heck out of there, but AFTER you tell him what he's done.

It sounds hard, but once you've take that step and there is NO doubt whatsoever that your hopes for a future with him is gone.. you can collect yourself, set new goals, and go on with your life.

Good luck dear, and make sure YOU survive this as soon as possible.

Invest your time and heart on a 'sure thing'.

[applelonia]

I have decided to go cold turkey.:o I don't know how this is going to end, but his girlfriend is coming back soon and I have been spending a lot of time with him while she's been gone for the past few months. Everybody keeps saying it is a toss up if he's going to leave her for me or stay. I made the choice for him that I give up the whole situation. His whole family thinks we have reunited but I think it is not right for me to steal another woman's man even if I did have him first. I let this go.:( It's hard but I let him go. I'm crying and shaking now because this is what I have been building up too. This is what I've been asking for help with. Nobody can help with this pain, but I have way more serious issues to deal with.;)

[Wildcat21]

It's the best for all. Right choice for you. Y0U WILL find yor special guy.

[Chery]

I have decided to go cold turkey.:o I don't know how this is going to end, but his girlfriend is coming back soon and I have been spending alot of time with him while she's been gone for the past few months. Everybody keeps saying it is a toss up if he's going to leave her for me or stay. I made the choice for him that I give up the whole situation. His whole family thinks we have reunited but I think it is not right for me to steal another woman's man even if I did have him first. I let this go.:( It's hard but I let him go. I'm crying and shaking now because this is what I have been building up too. This is what I've been asking for help with. Nobody can help with this pain, but I have way more serious issues to deal with.;)

You're doing the right thing for your own peace of mind, and that's what counts.
You need someone exclusing and who does not play fields.

As far as your other issues, feel free to notify us and we will do our best to support you in any way.

Lots of luck,

[applelonia]

I let that whole situation go... turned right around and landed myself right dead smack into another one. It's not a bad situation just kind of dramatic.:rolleyes: A few days after I totally stopped having any dealings with my ex I got a phone call from a guy that was my best friend for 2 years... I guess ever since my break-up with my ex. But I ended up having to move away from him in Texas Feb. of last year. Well... we were very good friends plus we were intimate a few times... but... I would never settle down with him nor anyone... probably do to my ex I was still holding on to up until now... ;) Well... I looked for my friend everywhere on several occasions but I didn't know where he was... so I decided... I guess... I gave in to the fact that I would never see him again... well... when he called it shocked me... I was totally off guard... he says he wanted to come see me because he was coming this way to meet up with some chic he had been talking to for the past 2 months... so... this gave me my first opportunity where I just finally got a chance to tell my best friend whom I haven't seen since Feb. 2005 that we have a 9 1/2 month son together. This is a trip... huh.. I sent him pics of his son... my son is soooo beautiful and he reminds me of him all the time right down to the dimples they share.:D I just thought I would never see him ever again. Now he says he wants to be with me but that now he would have to break up with this other girl. I've been talking to him every day and night ever since. I've talked with his parents and brothers (everybody knows me) We were really close everybody called me his shadow. This is a trip... I don't want anybody to leave anybody just for me. NOW... I'm messed up all over again... not really... I'm really okay... this is just a loop I just got thrown for here lately... I loved him years before we ever decided to become "homeyloverfriends":p

[Chery]

I let that whole situation go...........turned right around and landed myself right dead smack into another one. It's not a bad situation just kind of dramatic.:rolleyes: A few days after I totally stopped having any dealings with my ex I got a phone call from a guy that was my best friend for 2 years.....I guess ever since my break-up with my ex. But I ended up having to move away from him in Texas Feb. of last year. Well.........we were very good friends plus we were intimate a few times...........but.............I would never settle down with him nor anyone.........probably do to my ex I was still holding on to up until now......;) Well......I looked for my friend everywhere on several occassions but I didn't know where he was........so I decided.......I guess.......I gave in to the fact that I would never see him again ........well..............when he called it shocked me.......I was totally off guard..... he says he wanted to come see me because he was coming this way to meet up with some chic he had been talkin to for the past 2 months.......so......this gave me my first opportunity where I just finally got a chance to tell my best friend whom I haven't seen since Feb. 2005 that we have a 9 1/2 month son together. This is a trip...huh..I sent him pics of his son.....my son is soooo beautiful and he reminds me of him all the time right down to the dimples they share.:D I just thought I would never see him ever again. Now he says he wants to be with me but that now he would have to break up with this other girl. I've been talking to him every day and night ever since. I've talked with his parents and brothers (everybody knows me) We were really close everybody called me his shadow. This is a trip........ I don't want anybody to leave anybody just for me. NOW........ I'm messed up all over again.......not really.......I'm really okay...... this is just a loop I just got thrown for here lately.....I loved him years before we ever decided to become "homeyloverfriends":p

I think you posted this on a new thread, and there you'll find my suggestion.

Again, good luck, dear - Think of what you would like to have for you and your baby's happiness.

[applelonia]

I had to start a new thread because this is a whole other issue. This one here can't touch this new situation for me. I'm all messed up right now

[t_rod95]

Once him and his girl friend are fighting and get their space, move in and ask for a second chance.

[Skell]

This question was posted in June. Try and answer questions that are little more recent. Good to have you here though!

[Wildcat21]

This is from July

[alizeblu]

Look I love my girl to death and I know she's the one for me, I would never ever hurt her, and I want just her. If he doesn't feel this way, move on he's not for you.

[applelonia]

:rolleyes: When the female he had been seeing got out of rehab. And he came to me upset not knowing who he should be with, I knew then that this was not the one for me. Even though I still love him until this day, I just don't want anybody that doesn't just want me and nobody else. So, I told him I would make it easy for him to decide and I left. I have seen him since then but I haven't talked to him. Now, only with GOD's help, I am healing.;)