What is this?

xodiaiviondox · Oct 23, 2008, 03:10 PM

Me and my boyfriend got intimate yesterday. I am still a virgin but he's not. We were just feeling up on each other. We've done this before but yesterday I think things got carried away. I'm not sure where exactly he went with his penis but I kind of felt this pain. We didn't use a condom because we don't have sex. I was wet and he was just feeling up on it using his penis. After I came home I saw a few spots of redish-pinkish brown spots. When I wiped myself there was the same discharge just a little. It wasn't actual blood it was soome mauveish color. I am wondering what this is and if I'm still a virgin?

J_9 · Oct 23, 2008, 04:37 PM

Sounds like you had sex and he broke your hymen. Sorry, it doesn't sound like you are a virgin any longer.

xodiaiviondox · Oct 23, 2008, 06:40 PM

Really? It didn't hurt as much. But right now when I go to the bathroom there is still some blood. There wasn't any in the morning.

J_9 · Oct 23, 2008, 06:41 PM

I hope you are using contraception.

Please visit this post for any questions you may have.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...me-272922.html

xodiaiviondox · Oct 23, 2008, 06:45 PM

I'm not. But I'm not going to do this again. I'm not even sure what it was.

J_9 · Oct 23, 2008, 06:48 PM

Originally Posted by xodiaiviondox

im not even sure what it was.

You aren't sure what was? You had sex, you are no longer a virgin.

xodiaiviondox · Oct 23, 2008, 07:02 PM

What are my chances of being pregnant? He didn't and I'm not due for my period until the first week of November.

xodiaiviondox · Oct 23, 2008, 07:05 PM

He didn't come*

J_9 · Oct 23, 2008, 08:17 PM

He didn't have to come... Pre-ejaculation contains sperm and it only takes one sperm to reach one egg.

xodiaiviondox · Oct 24, 2008, 10:54 AM

Can I take the morning after pill now? It doesn't make sense to do so because its not the morning after its going to be 48 hours. After how long should I wait to take a pregnancy test? Also I have a question, does it matter if the hymen was torn completely or just a little? I know he didn't go in completely maybe just the head but there was a little blood. Nothing was on him even.

J_9 · Oct 24, 2008, 12:21 PM

The morning after pill is good for up to 78 hours. But it is not always effective.

As far as the pregnancy test, you have to wait until you missed your period.

The hymen, it's broken or it's not. It can't be half broken. If you bled, it broke.

xodiaiviondox · Oct 24, 2008, 02:11 PM

My period have always been irregular for as far as I remember its never on one set date. What do you think should I take the pill?

J_9 · Oct 24, 2008, 02:52 PM

You can take the pill this time, but please use birth control from now on.

Alty · Oct 24, 2008, 03:17 PM

Just a side, note. You said that it didn't hurt that much, but it did hurt a bit and you bled, yes, your hymen is broken and you are no longer a virgin. Also, like J9 said, pre ejaculate contains sperm, all it takes is one.

Some women don't feel any pain or have any bleeding their first time. Some girls lose their hymen in other ways, like riding a bike or horse back etc.

I would do as J9 suggested, the morning after pill and then hope that it works.

From here on out, always use protection. The pill and a condom is your safest bet, even though that combo still isn't 100% effective, nothing is, other than abstinence.

Good luck, let us know how it turns out.

xodiaiviondox · Oct 24, 2008, 04:13 PM

I honestly don't want to take the pill because of the side effects. Its going to throw off my cycle even more and its just going to complicate things. At the same time he didn't go all the way in and when I discussed this with him, he said that he was no far from coming and that he doesn't think I need the pill. I called a clinic that I know and they were closed. Where else can I get the pill? Walgreens, cvs?

Alty · Oct 24, 2008, 04:19 PM

Go to another clinic.

There are many more "side effects" to being pregnant than there are with the morning after pill. As for throwing off your cycle and complicting things, wouldn't a baby complicate them more?

He doesn't have to come in order for you to get pregnant. Pre-ejaculate, which I can guarantee was present, can cause pregnancy, all it takes is one little sperm to fetilize one little egg and voilà, you're pregnant.

Is your boyfriend ready to support a child? Is he willing to risk that you might in fact be pregnant? If so then don't bother with the pill, but if you don't want to take a chance, I'd get the pill and take it.

If there is a planned parenthood in your area they can also supply the morning after pill and counselling on "safer sex", I won't use the term "safe sex" there's no such thing.

Good luck.

J_9 · Oct 24, 2008, 04:22 PM

It doesn't matter if he was far from coming, there is still sperm present.

You see, our vaginas get lubricated during sexual excitement, so does a man's penis. It gets lubricated as well. That lubrication contains sperm. It only takes one sperm and ejaculation is not necessary for that one sperm.

xodiaiviondox · Oct 25, 2008, 08:25 AM

I couldn't get a hold of that pill since everything near me is closed and by the time I do get it, its going to be past 72 hours. I am now going to wait for my period or any symptoms for pregnancy. I really hope I am not. My chances are slim but it can surely happen.

Alty · Oct 25, 2008, 12:52 PM

Good luck to you, let us know how it turns out.

Please do one thing for sure. If you aren't pregnant go on the pill and use a condom from now on. Even if you two are just "goofing around" always use birth control.

Good luck.

xodiaiviondox · Oct 25, 2008, 01:49 PM

Yes I will definetely keep that in mind. Also another question, when I'm usually ovulating I have this white discharge and that's a week or two before my period. I think that's happening to me now. Or is that just a sign of pregnancy? But its just been like 3 days since the intercourse happened.

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