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hee · Oct 23, 2008, 12:00 PM

Actually I was dumped 5 months ago... wht he told me that the reason was that we had no future due to different religion... but just after one month of our break up I saw him roming with some other girl...

And now finally I noe that they both are going out... tht too the girl again is of same religion... I noe all this about him bcaz we are in same college and we have a bunch of common friends... and his new girlfriend too is in my collge... so its really sometimes difficult to see your ex everyday with someone else doing same things he use to do with me...

I sometimes feel to take revench and call their parents and tel eevryhting at least they will have a breakp and I don't have to seee them together in college...

But then I feel I shuld not do bcaz if I do then whts the difference between him and me...

Finally I don't want him to be mine or so bcaz I would nt be able to trust him buttt I want him to realize his mistake and once in lifetime and say sorry to me...

help me how to face such situation

kctiger · Oct 23, 2008, 12:04 PM

Move on... that is how you face the situation. His being with another girl has absolutely NOTHING to do with you. Don't let your emotions control your actions. I know it is an awkward situation to be in but you have just got to get over this and do all you can do to avoid being in this situation. Take a different walk to class... something. What college are you in?

kctiger · Oct 23, 2008, 12:05 PM

Move on... that is how you face the situation. His being with another girl has absolutely NOTHING to do with you. Don't let your emotions control your actions. I know it is an awkward situation to be in but you have just got to get over this and do all you can do to avoid being in this situation. Take a different walk to class... something. What college are you in? He is your EX. Five months since he was your BF. Let it go. As hard as it may seem, just let it go.

ZoeMarie · Oct 23, 2008, 12:06 PM

I would look at it like, he's a liar and if she wants to be with a liar then let her. He told you it wouldn't work out because of religion but she's the same religion you are? It's hard to see your ex with someone else when you still have feelings for that person there's really nothing you can do other than occupy yourself with other things.

Romefalls19 · Oct 23, 2008, 12:33 PM

Let it go, don't stoop to an immature level. You want revenge, get on with YOUR life and be happy

JBeaucaire · Oct 23, 2008, 12:35 PM

He doesn't owe you anything. Nothing he says matters, an apology wouldn't make you feel better, in fact it might make you even angrier in certain circumstances.

Whom he dates next... irrelevant.
How truthful he was or wasn't in parting with you... irrelevant. Truly, it is all irrelevant.

All that matters is you two weren't compatible in the long run and have moved on. You're watching his "move on" process and you should try not to do that. Nothing he's doing has any bearing on you, much as you want to think it does. And nothing he said to you restricts his future choices in any way.

Your future isn't painted in his colors, so stop looking at things through his words. They're irrelevant. He's yesterday. Look at your real tomorrow and don't compare.

Onward, girl. Revenge is for villains and idiots, and you aren't either one.

neverme · Oct 23, 2008, 12:38 PM

Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

He doesn't owe you anything. Nothing he says matters, an apology wouldn't make you feel better, in fact it might make you even angrier in certain circumstances.

Whom he dates next...irrelevant.
How truthful he was or wasn't in parting with you...irrelevant. Truly, it is all irrelevant.

All that matters is you two weren't compatible in the long run and have moved on. You're watching his "move on" process and you should try not to do that. Nothing he's doing has any bearing on you, much as you want to think it does. And nothing he said to you restricts his future choices in any way.

Your future isn't painted in his colors, so stop looking at things through his words. They're irrelevant. He's yesterday. Look at your real tomorrow and don't compare.

Onward, girl. Revenge is for villains and idiots, and you aren't either one.

I agree
You got off easy, this poor girl myt have the same problems as you. Stop feeling angry and start enjoying life!

talaniman · Oct 23, 2008, 05:43 PM

What to do when you see your EX b/f with other girls?

*Edited for clarity*

NOTHING!!!!

ylaira · Oct 23, 2008, 06:56 PM

What to do when you see your boyfriend with other girl?

Open your bag and check if you still have some homework left.

liz28 · Oct 23, 2008, 07:20 PM

In order to move on you must let go. Once you let go you will be able to move on.

He is no longer your boyfriend and is free to date whoever he wants.

You want closure but that's something you might never get. Take his moving on as closure and go out and mangle.

h0llister · Oct 23, 2008, 08:27 PM

Find a new man lol

411Help · Oct 23, 2008, 08:59 PM

Look the other way.

kctiger · Oct 24, 2008, 06:10 AM

If he is blatantly flaunting this girl in front of you then you need to realize he is an a$$ and you shouldn't concern yourself with him. I wish my ex would flaunt her new d - bag boyfriend around me! Have faith in yourself and have confidence in who you are. Don't be bothered by his boy games. He is a joke, treat him like one. I know you are still hurt but play it off like it's no big deal... cause it ain't no big deal!

talaniman · Oct 24, 2008, 06:35 AM

Its not him, its YOU, letting him play these childish games with your head.

Ignore him and he will get tired of these games.

411Help · Oct 24, 2008, 10:05 PM

If you don't give him the attention he is craving, then he will eventually stop.

hee · Oct 24, 2008, 11:01 PM

Actually I had a break up as I told in last article,since 3months and I really donot noe am I over with him or not...

I remember that day when he told me "NOT TO WALK WITH HIM" everyone is seeing and don't talk to me and just go awayy... and I begged him not to leave me and go like this... I caught his hand and pulled him... he didn't listen and just went away without even turning back once and I just trashed on the ground crying for him...

I was so angry bcaz he didn't had a reason even, I was begging him to tel me y... I told him if he liked some other girl then tell me at least I could live.. but breaking up with out reason was lik foolish thing it ever happened... I was so frustrated the next day that I said him "BLODDY BAST**D" in front of every one as he was in my same class... and he was sayinh what did I do? I slaped him and went off...

I thought the probable reason could be no future as our religion were diff but we knew that from starting of our relationship... and we were going out since 2 years...

Later he started flurtin with many girls in front of me and I kept shwoing that it doesn't matter me and I was much happy without him hangin out with all girl friends I had... :p

And the worst thing is that he is still in my class so have to see himevery day... tht too with other girls... :mad

Now he is got a girl (same religion as mine)and he keeps showing me that he has a girl friend who is better than me and he purposely cumes in front of me to keep showing himself with tth girl...

I tried reading so many articles books internet how to get over a guy... it always said occupy yourself with other things in life create a passion might be music ,reading books ,gym
Cut contact.. etc

I agree those books really helped me butt I really don't noe m I over him...
Bcaz till today I don't like facing him and I hate him and that girl too who he is dating with...
And someetimes I do think of him... and what he did to me...

Many of my friends are going out second time third time just to get over the first.. shuld ido the same...

My basic quest is " GOIN OUT SECOND TIME OR WITH A DIFFERENT GUY IS THE ONLY SOLUTION TO GET OVER UR FIRST GUY":rolleyes:

AND TO GET OVER HIM COMPELTERLY IS VERY DIFF BCAZ HE IS IN MY SAME CLASS AND I HAV TO SEE HIM EVERY DAY AS OUR CLASS IS JUST 40 STUDENTS... in same college...

Sorry for writing such long... but just wanted advice if possible... bcaz I am really suffering through this...

linnealand · Oct 25, 2008, 02:33 AM

Okay, now breathe.

First of all, the religion excuse was a bunch of baloney. Unless you were practicing a different religion when you began dating, and then you converted while you were together, AND his religious beliefs led him to believe that he could no longer be with you... it's baloney. The fact that he's involved with someone else who's of the same religion as you makes it even more clear just what a baloney excuse he used. So let's just say that it's safe to assume that, for whatever real reason, he decided that he's not interested in you like that anymore.

Now it's time to address your last post. I want to say this in the best way possible, but there's no getting around a message that only a true friend would tell you: you're acting crazy. I mean really, really crazy. Over the top, scare-all-the-boys-away crazy.

Whether you do or do not know if you feel like getting over him, it's really time that you let him go. It is time to get over him and move on with your life. This play-by-play stuff is really, really dramatic. You know, you're not living in a julia roberts movie or camping inside a television set. You don't need to have that much drama in your life. He was being mean, and then you cursed him out in front of a crowd full of people before physically assaulting him and running away? You need to calm down, step back, and start rethinking what is and what is not appropriate behavior to expect of yourself.

This boy is now allowed to go out with whomever he chooses, whether you're in the same class or not. You need to let him live his life, and now it's time you started living yours. In answer to your question, nooo, the solution to all of your problems does not come from going out with another boy. It appears that you have a number of issues that you should be working on within yourself, and, trust me, I think you're going to need all the energy you can get. Then, in the rest of your time, try focusing on your schoolwork. To me, this sounds like a much better plan.

One last thing. I think that you should consider the possibility that you've crossed the line (just a wee bit) into obsession. So the next time you want to read more articles related to getting this boy back, consider reading something on dealing with obsession instead. I mean all of this with the best intentions. Please take care of yourself.