[costady]

Dear all, I would really need several opinions on my serious issue posted here. To be very short with the description... It is about a relationship that I had for 10 years, a normal relationship with goods and bads. The problem is that I might not have been very mature sometimes and we "suceeded" in splitting after 10 years because of a gealousy of mine. I try to change my behaviour, not to involve too much in my career... which I've done so far because this resulted in neglecting the most important aspects of my life. I would very much like to try and gain back this love because it is the most beautiful thing that ever happened to me. The problem is that he does not want at least to answer the phone... I can't dare go to his apartment because I know he won't answer... So, please help! I need the most original idea or the best advice... Thank you so much!

[talaniman]

The best advice I can give you is to work on your own issues, and get the balance back in your life, and leave him alone. That way you can keep your dignity, and self respect, while you learn to love yourself enough to build a healthy life for yourself.

You never know what the future holds, or whether he will miss you, or not, but best be ready for anything. Working on you, and your personal issues, will help with that.

Your responsible for your own happiness, so get busy.