[Sharonofoz]

Will we be together, my husband and I are currently separated. He left a note saying I DON'T LOVE YOU, ANYMORE. We had dinner last night and he is still wearing his wedding ring. I have so much fear around us never reconsoling and presently a lot of self loathing because I haven't managed to keep my marriage together. A pyschic once told me we would always be together as long as I kept talking to him but I don't feel like I have the words that are needed to mend the situation. :(

[simoneaugie]

Will we be together, my husband and i are currently seperated. He left a note saying I DON'T LOVE YOU, ANYMORE. We had dinner last night and he is still wearing his wedding ring. I have so much fear around us never reconsoling and presently a lot of self loathing because i haven't managed to keep my marriage together. A pyschic once told me we would always be together as long as i kept talking to him but i don't feel like i have the words that are needed to mend the situation. :(

Self loathing? It takes two to make a marriage work. Please quit beating yourself up. Focus on you now, not what mistakes you have made. I may be able to help.

[donf]

Sharon,

There is no magic wand that can be waved over the two of you to make everything better.

You mention your fear and self loathing, but you don't mention what the actual issues are.

You said that hubby left you a note telling you that he doesn't love you any more.

It's just to bad that he doesn't but he is the one that needs to address that issue, not you.

The two of you exchanged "VOWS" not something like well I'll love her until I don't love her. Marriage is hard work it is not for the faint at heart. I suggest you get your hubby, sit him down and the beat the living daylights out if him with kindness. First it will succeed in confusing him.

Let him know your felling on the subject of divorce. Also ask him why he wants to throw his marriage vow, wife, children on the garbage heap. What on earth could you have done to warrant that horrendous amount of rejection from him. Ask him what is so bad that the two of you working together cannot repair?

This is your marriage, fight to protect it!

[mjl]

It takes 2 for a marriage to work. He took vows to love you forever!! I can't believe how irresponsilbe some husbands can be from some of the stories I've herd on this site. He said that he doesn't love you anymore... I don't bielieve that. Once in love (the kind of love for marriage) I don't believe that love can just disappear, it's in there he just has to bring it back into focus.