[Fixer12]

I appreciate all your help guys. But is over... yesterday she was having a bad day. She just kept going off on me saying I was getting annoying, being to clingy. When all I wanted to know what was going on. She would treat me badly. I just called her trying to help her feel better when having a bad day. I would send her special texts to make her day brghter. I don't think I really did anything wrong. She just ignored me all day... so I think I had a reason on why to be so worried. I hope I wasn't to clingy.

[belmondo]

:(sorry for you. Maybe this is a good thing as I said before. You need to get stronger and live and learn. Which you have, hopefully from this you have learnt not to be too clingy, as she said that you did become annoying. I can understand that you kept contacting her because you felf worried, but her having a bad day, which we all do from time to time probably gave you that excuse you needed to continue your clingyness. You sound like the type of guy who needs to find a lady who actually loves having somebody who cares very much and is LOCAL! You take from this knowing that you do have a big heart, try and learn to trust otherpeople knowing that they do have other interests and although my not be with you you are always though of foundly. :D try the mood gym I said about x

[Fixer12]

Yea. I understand. Well as it turned out she was lying to me about a lot of stuff... other guys... she wasn't telling me the truth about what I was doing. I even had to go to the hospital last night, she told me not to call her because she still didn't feel good... so I haven't heard anything from her... and kind of plan on it staying that way

[Fixer12]

Recently when I went back to my hometown, I had ran into my exgirlfriend. She and I had decided we wanted to try and make the long distance work, (bout 400 miles). We had tried for about less then a week, she stopped telling me stuff and started acting sketching saying she was sleeping all the time. Even at night when I would get off work, she would just ignore my phone calls all together. One night I even had to go to the hospital, and she told me not to call. She claimed that later that night she would call me. But I never heard anything. I had called her, she didn't answer. The next morning still... she never texted me or said anything to me. She had later told me that she did try text me but I never got it. (very unlikely).

I have been playing this game with this girl for about over a year now. Constantly feeling down about myself. Not ever being able to meet new girls, while she goes around sleeping with other guys then coming back to me saying she loves me and saying she has a plan for us to get back together when she graduates. I am 20 and she is 17. We started dating originally when I was in high school. We had a good happy first year together, part of it long distance, then after that, she can never commit to the distance again for some reason.

I'm not trying ot make her look like the bad guy in all of this. I am just ready to stop feeling this way. I recently had decided to go over a week without checking myspace or Facebook, because I realized I always look at her page.

I am ready to move on, but she has played such an important role in my life, that I am not sure how to do that. I don't want us to never talk anymore, but I really want to be over it all. I want to be able to find someone. In the back of my mind I feel that she is always the one moving on while I sit and wait. I go back to her because it is familiar, and I have no one else, so it's nice getting that special feeling again. I don't know what to do. Can I move on without having to completley shut her out of my life?

[talaniman]

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Reread all your posts, and see you keep doing bad stuff to yourself. You already know what to do, but can't do it, so be miserable until you can make some changes in your life.

[turbogtir]

Sounds like my situation. Read my thread , I suggest asking her if there's anyone else is in the picture. IE: "another guy"

[Fixer12]

Of coarse there is probably another guy in her life, and in a lot of ways I am OK with it. It's not what I have wanted in the end. But I can't do much about it

[talaniman]

You could get on with your own life, and leave hers alone.

[vipriya]

I think she is being stupid and at this point of time I didn't think she will listen to you... if you say a right thing to her she will say its wrong... I think some third person can make her explain that what she is doing is not right and make her undrestand.. you should give her a feeling that you are concerned about her safety and security... I think be in touch with her so that she don't land up later regretting for her mistake... later on she might be broken...

[Fixer12]

Right now my girlfriend and I have been off and on for along time. For those of you that have read my threads before you know. Right now I live pretty far away from her, whenever I come home on the breaks we usually get back together, but once we have the distance to work with, things generally don't work out. We have gone several months with things working and not seeing much of each other, but it's hard for us to both coupe now days.

We both care about each other and seem to love each other a lot.
She claims she has learned that she really wants things to work, and she really wants to be with me. She told me she is going to be trying harder then ever and will want to be with me no matter where I am at.

I currently am supposed to be going for an Internship at Disney World, because I have been unhappy where I have been living.

I currently have the option to move closer to her where it will only be an hour away from each other and we can see each other whenever we really want.

For the last few days we have been pretty happy together, she has been showing she really wants things to work until she gets tired. Once she is tired she just wants to sleep that is all. Which I can understand to an extent. She has been known in the past to sleep a lot, but sometimes it makes no sense on how much she has been sleeping. Generally at least 10 hours, but she still wants to sleep more. I told her it kind of made me nervous because it made no sense to me, she told me I could even drive by her house to make sure her car is there (which I really don't want to do, and haven't yet) Are these feelings of nervousness telling me something?

Basically want I am trying to get at is the fact that I could go to school up closer to where she is, but if things don't work out between us, to me it will be a mistake. I need to decide soon, and I have asked her to talk to me about it, but right now she is to tired and just wants to be left alone to sleep. Also she isn't even sure if I will get to see her tonight, after I didn't even get to see her the night before. But the last 3 nights, she would stay out with me till about midnight and one of those nights was even a school night.

I have been known in the past of getting over cautious about things, and it drives the relationship nuts, how can I be more calm and understanding without thinking that she might be up to something? Any advice would be great!

[WFM117]

You need to what is best for YOU. Stop trying to fix something that is and sounds like it has been broken for awhile. "On/Off again" relationships are exactly that, on and off AGAIN. This is a way to hold on to the past. Not letting go completely or long enough, only allows for a false sense of hope that everything is better. You need to take a step back and look at the whole picture. Do you really believe that your girl is tired all the time, if so maybe she needs to see a doctor. It sounds like she is just giving an excuse to why she is being mean to you or not in when you call or so on. Of course you can drive by and see her car in front of her house, but does that parked car me that she is asleep inside? I'm not trying to make you jump to conclusions, but don't be stupid about things either. Usually the first instict is the right answer. I am not saying that she is cheating, but I am saying that there is more to it than just being tired(all the time). Find what is best for you, stop thinking of your "girlfriend" because the only person she is looking out for is herself. At least that is what it sounds like.

[lawanwadee]

You say... "my girlfriend and i have been off and on for a long time........"

This should give you a clue. Why not get a fresh start and have a happy relationship with someone else instead of a desperate one.