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jj890 · Sep 25, 2008, 06:28 PM

Thanks for reading if you do.. I really need the advice.

Well,
First off, Ever since me and my ex broke up, I've been talking to my other ex, her name is Danielle, but we call her Danii, I've recently talked to her for a while, and it seems like Im just falling back IN LOVE with her as I use to be. Earlier today, I asked her

Me: "Who do you like?"
Her: "Two people."
Me: "Who are they?"
Her: "Jordan, and Rey" (Im Jordan)
Me: "Oh.. Well if you had to choose between me or Rey to go out with, who would it be?
Her: "Rey, because like, I love that me and you are friends. And I don't like long relationships and stuff."

But like some days ago, I asked her could I get another chance? And she said that I will be able to soon.. But then she says this stuff.. I ask her out before.. And she says no.. Because she likes two people and she doesnt wanna go out with someone while liking someone else too. But now that she says this, it just feel's like she was lying to me the whole time. When she told me

"Rey, because like, I love that me and you are friends. And I don't like long relationships and stuff."

I just felt like breaking down.. And like I was down, I started acting like not myself, she asked for me not to be mad or anything and I said okay well I'll talk to you tomarrow or whenever goodnight. But I just don't really know what to do.. Im actually really hurt..

Oh and What does long relationships have to do with anything I asked her?

Adivce please? :(:(

wikedjuggalo · Sep 25, 2008, 07:03 PM

Like the other thread man walk away. No need to be friends with her. I know you do not want to hear this but its best for you. She used you as rebound after her ex. Basically she played you to get back at her ex it looks like.

Sorry to tell you but look for someone who will love you as you love them. You cannot have a relationship where one has love and the other does not.

jj890 · Sep 25, 2008, 07:05 PM

Originally Posted by wikedjuggalo

Like the other thread man walk away. No need to be friends with her. I know you do not want to hear this but its best for you. She used you as rebound after her ex. Basically she played you to get back at her ex it looks like.

Sorry to tell you but look for someone who will love you as you love them. You cannot have a relationship where one has love and the other does not.

Jeezz.. I hate life l; thanks for the advice though.

jj890 · Sep 25, 2008, 07:06 PM

Originally Posted by wikedjuggalo

Like the other thread man walk away. No need to be friends with her. I know you do not want to hear this but its best for you. She used you as rebound after her ex. Basically she played you to get back at her ex it looks like.

Sorry to tell you but look for someone who will love you as you love them. You cannot have a relationship where one has love and the other does not.

Oh and how do I tell her I don't want to talk to her anymore? We've been friends for a while.. Idk how to end it.

wikedjuggalo · Sep 25, 2008, 07:11 PM

Well I cannot tell you exactly what to say but just explain that she hurt you by messing with your feelings. If you want to remain friends with her you can try but those emotions you have for her won't go away.

Your young man I know it hurts but lift your head up and just keep yourself open.

I mean huge red flag buddy "I dont like long relationships and stuff."

jj890 · Sep 25, 2008, 07:13 PM

Originally Posted by wikedjuggalo

Well I cannot tell you exactly what to say but just explain that she hurt you by messing with your feelings. If you want to remain friends with her you can try but those emotions you have for her wont go away.

Your young man I know it hurts but lift your head up and just keep yourself open.

I mean huge red flag buddy "I dont like long relationships and stuff."

But like.. When we use to date, She asked me to promise to never let her go, But now she says she doesn't like long relationships.. I just don't understand..

wikedjuggalo · Sep 25, 2008, 07:16 PM

Well simply she does not know what she wants and frankly is not relationship material. Trust me you are much better off not playing her games. Your like her toy yo-yo at this point man. I'm sorry but she used you and your better of not with her.

jj890 · Sep 25, 2008, 07:18 PM

Originally Posted by wikedjuggalo

Well simply she does not know what she wants and frankly is not relationship material. Trust me you are much better off not playing her games. Your like her toy yo-yo at this point man. I'm sorry but she used you and your better of not with her.

All right, thanks.

friend4u178 · Sep 25, 2008, 09:15 PM

Originally Posted by jj890

But like.. When we use to date, She asked me to promise to never let her go, But now she says she doesnt like long relationships.. I just dont understand..

She's changed her mind... let it go , why go back to square one. Her saying she doesn't like long relationships is her way of saying "I don't want a relationship with you" without trying to hurt your feelings.

talaniman · Sep 25, 2008, 09:40 PM

Stop already, your just letting these females torture you. Time to meet some new ones.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 26, 2008, 01:56 AM

You break up with a girl then start talking to your ex and get re-hooked on her. She is doing the same thing you're doing. Don't go back to old stuff, meet some new people.
Better still, you guys sound young, try just hanging out and being friends for a while.

Romefalls19 · Sep 26, 2008, 05:55 AM

Why do you want the same person again? Relationships end for plenty of reasons, you really think it would work a second time around? Highly doubt it. Go out with friends, meet new girls and have some fun. Don't get hooked on someone who isn't worth your time

jj890 · Sep 26, 2008, 01:51 PM

Hey guys, Last night I told her how she hurt me and everything, she said she never lied to me, which I doubt, and she said that we were really good friends but I messed it up, I feel bad, I told her that I was done anyway, And that I didn't want to talk anymore, she told me thanks for hurting her again.. Gah, did I mess up?

talaniman · Sep 26, 2008, 01:55 PM

It wasn't going to happen with her anyway, so how about moving on to other things, and other people.

jj890 · Sep 26, 2008, 01:56 PM

Well Im kind of trying to, but I don't really know how.

wikedjuggalo · Sep 26, 2008, 01:59 PM

Well man I know you don't want to hear this but your better off without her and her games.

jj890 · Sep 26, 2008, 02:01 PM

I don't really think it was games though, I guess she just didn't want to ruin our really good friendship, and I respect that, but I don't know I don't know if I should apologize and be friends with her again, but that would probably be about the 50th time that I apologize, Our friendship usually doesn't really last long because we always get in fights, and its usually me that gets jealous or her. Idk feelings changed I guess.. Just confused. Its fine though.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 26, 2008, 02:39 PM

If you have gone through that much drama with her, why in the world would you have gone back there after your last break up.
You need to face the fact that you two are probably not going to be a couple, too much bad history. Move on to someone new.
Make sure you don't take old baggage with you. What ever problems you've had with this girl, spend some time by yourself and deal with them so that you will be emotionally healthy to be with someone else.
Question, how old are you? And what happened with the first girl you were with?

Lizzie7777 · Sep 26, 2008, 03:34 PM

Hey, I'm going through the same thing as you. My ex just broke up and now were friends. We really loved each other and being friends just hurts me. Sometimes, no contact is the best thing to do. You don't even have to say anything to that girl. If she really wants you, TRUSE ME she will pursue you. Just like any person would do. Even if you don't talk to her. If she really wants you she will make an effort to talk. Then you can tell her. But for now, it's best to just get one with life and better things will come. Who knows, maybe you'll get back together :D

jj890 · Sep 26, 2008, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

If you have gone through that much drama with her, why in the world would you have gone back there after your last break up.
You need to face the fact that you two are probably not going to be a couple, too much bad history. Move on to someone new.
Make sure you don't take old baggage with you. What ever problems you've had with this girl, spend some time by yourself and deal with them so that you will be emotionally healthy to be with someone else.
Question, how old are you? And what happened with the first girl you were with?

15, And my other girlfriend, well I was with her for about 4 months or so, and she has left me once for her ex named Mikey, and she still keeps in contact with him a lot, I don't know if she still likes him, but it seems like she does, because like one minute she's like I love you, then the next she's like oohh Im busy, I can't talk right now, and when I check her phone.. That's when like.. The texts of him and her begin. So it seems like she was just pushing herself away from me. So.. I dumped her, and now we aren't friends, and I kind of like it this way, even though she says her heart looks like </3... Which I DOUBT.. But yea, that's what happen to my first girl, well that's not my first first girl.. But you get what I mean. Lol.