Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    stuckonyou7's Avatar
    stuckonyou7 Posts: 7, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #1

    Sep 14, 2008, 05:39 PM
    Just like the movies?
    In m,ovies often when two people break up and one loves someone so much they go to the extreme. Now I'd like to know if this is too much.. what if I traveled all the way to where my ex is (he lives two provinces over- about a 10 hr car ride) and asked for him to take me back.. would this be stupid? We were in a long distant relationship and I won't seem him.. I'm thinking that's the only way to get him back is to do it face to face.. but what if he says nooo? He was the one that broke up with me.. saying it was too much for his gr 12 year.. what should I do? I love him.
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
     
    #2

    Sep 14, 2008, 07:49 PM
    Why did you break up?

    LDR's are so hard to maintain.
    stuckonyou7's Avatar
    stuckonyou7 Posts: 7, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #3

    Sep 14, 2008, 08:15 PM
    He said it was an important year for him.. with hockey and school and he didn't want to be worrying about "girls"

    .. and we'd been doing the LDR for a year.
    JBeaucaire's Avatar
    JBeaucaire Posts: 5,426, Reputation: 997
    Software Expert
     
    #4

    Sep 14, 2008, 10:24 PM
    Senior in high school? So this would be an exercise designed to retain your titles? After all, once he says yes or no, you're then going home again, right?

    If this is the case, love him or not, I don't understand what is gained by the trip. Regardless of what he says, once you get back home, one phone call from him and you're right back where you are now, right?

    Loving someone is not the basis of an exclusive relationship. So many people make this simple and catastrophic mistake.

    Liking/Loving someone is the reason you START to date them. Then everything else has to work out to be anything resembling permanent. The reason long-distance relationships don't work for daters is because... well, real life is lived in the physical world, not the digital world.

    Adult couples who have been together for many years, and/or married, they are really the only ones who have much shot at making LD work, they have an established, proven commitment to base it on. Young love or early daters have none of that.

    SPEECH OVER... sorry, I"m long-winded, I know. But you two are daters, you don't live anywhere near each other, this guy is CLEARLY (at least clear to us) not that into trying this LD stuff any more. A desperate drive to face to face him would only be effective if you STAYED once he said "yes".

    Are you going to do that? If not, you're wasting your time... and his. Worse, you're chasing some picture in your head of what you wish was going on, instead of just letting reality be what it is.

    Just like the movies? No. Those movies are about grownups going cross-country to get their love, get married, etc. It's very romantic. But it's Hollywood. And it is grownup/adult relationships. And you're not those things.

    Short answer - He broke up with you. You won't get him "back" because you two haven't really been together in any meaningful way in quite some time... he just accepted it before you did.

Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions

 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

Two movies [ 3 Answers ]

I did ask about one of these movies before, but I thought I try again I believe this was a kids movie. All that I can remember was that this kid being locked in his room because he kept sneaking out of the house to visit to older man who fixed planes. I can only remember the scene where he is...

Movies, great movies cause I'm bored [ 1 Answers ]

Anyone knows a movie similar to the devil wears prada?

80s TV movies [ 6 Answers ]

I am trying to remember the names of two children's movies from the 80s. One is I believe a series of movies about the boogey man. The boogey man character, if I remember, liked to say "boogey, boogey boo! Just kidding!" The other is a very hazy memory. A story of a girl in her room at night...

Web movies [ 2 Answers ]

Although a few assortment of peeps on this site frown upon such a question as to "where can I download music and stuff?", I on the other hand would like to know of a few sites whre I can view movies online? For free? Heck yes, why not. I'm just saying that the internet has proven itself to be...

Movies When I Was A Kid [ 2 Answers ]

Ok.. so far I've been pretty good at remembering movies from when I was a child, but this one has me stumped. This is all I remmeber I think the kids moved into the new house with their mom and they start to notice things disappearing. That's when they follow this little... goblin... or just...


View more questions Search