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    #21

    Aug 28, 2008, 03:16 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by High Max
    I'm sorry for letting everyone down. My fate has been sealed, I have no choice.

    Your fate has been sealed?

    Are you even reading your posts before you send them out in public?

    I was worried for the girl but now I'm really worried for you.
    You're not letting us down, but more yourself. And you do have a choice, now I suggest acting like a responsible adult and making one that is rational. Saying you don't have a choice is a cop out.

    If you have any kind of conscience you will stop and realize that even if your ploy is "successful", you will feel tremendous guilt throughout your "lifetime of happiness" for guilting someone into wanting you.

    Besides that I feel incredibly sorry for this girl for what you want to do to her, I'm not sure what I'm worried about since even if she feels guilty enough to take you back momentarily, she will still have the lack of feeling for you that caused this breakup in the first place.

    You are only hurting yourself.
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    Aug 28, 2008, 03:52 PM
    To be blunt, my thoughts are that you have issues and seriously need to get over her. Are you crazy? I am a normal, attractive, cool girl... probably similar to your ex. If a guy (who I was clearly already in the process of getting over and on to dating new people) ever put on this act to me it would make me do the complete opposite and run as far away from him as possible versus becoming closer to him. No SANE girl, is going to like what you have in mind. She will learn one way or another of the lie and it will backfire on you. It's f_cked up you are even thinking of doing this. How old are you?? It's like the boy who cried wolf. Watch out if you do this your karma's about to be f_cked up for good. Get over her, she's obviously moving ina direction that she is content with. There are a lot of fish in the sea. I've been in your shoes (even currently) where you want to bad to have someone back. They seem perfect, like you two were meant to be etc. It hurts bad. But guess what?That's reality, and reality bites sometimes. Be a man, and be strong, and move on. I promise there will be someone else out there. But please, don't do the whole accident thing that is the most inmature, insecure thing I have ever head of.
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    #23

    Aug 28, 2008, 03:54 PM
    Seriously, if you stick to your plan, in your ego it may seem okay, but it's only going to backfire. I would put money on that.
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    Aug 28, 2008, 09:41 PM
    Do the facts that you guys broke up because you treated her badly & you're wanting to get her back by trickery / deceipt really not ring any bells for you as to why that would be monumentally BAD idea, (like in lying to her is a very wrong thing to do) or it will show her you are still as self centered as ever, (not an attractive trait at all)??

    You notice not ONE person has encouraged you to pull your nasty plot off & yet you persist in insisting that it's your only choice?

    Cuz obviously as much as you were willing to spend time researching head injuries, you don't see a need to put that time into being honest with her? Oh wait, that would take you being able to demonstrate you can be a good partner & a selfish liar sure isn't. Do you really not get that??

    Like maybe one of the options is seeing a professional to get some help for yourself & on how to have a great relationship which would be much more helpful & needed than what you are actually planning plus give you proof you want to change & do the right things?? Maybe ask her to go with you to the counselor after you've had a few solo sessions so she can give her side of what life with you was like so your issues can be properly addressed, which would at least show her that you are trying to be the type of person she needs / wants?
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    #25

    Aug 29, 2008, 08:31 AM
    I think it better to attract a mate through caring and sharing, not deceit. Your idea is insane, desperate, and selfish, and uncaring, and doubt any one, even your family, will go along with such an idea.

    Get some help soon!
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    #26

    Aug 29, 2008, 08:43 AM
    One for the books.

    I mean no disrespect, the emotional pain of losing a partner is one of the worst pains aperson can go through, it's also the most constructive and helpful.

    True Love conquers all as the saying goes. However, it does remain silent on finding true love based on deceipt. Many here have already picked out your selfishness, superficiallity coupled with double standards, although you wrap these ugly traits up in a story about your journey to find happiness and Love.

    Your not yourself, you are most likely a good person who cannot see or think straight, a good person who is letting his emotions drive him mad. Make no mistake this is madness, it is wrong on so many levels and carrying through with it will hurt everyone involved, I fear it will hurt you the most.
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    #27

    Aug 29, 2008, 04:36 PM
    Time isn't on my side, I realize how necessary this is. I think I am going to do this tonight, in just a few hours. I will wait until everyone is in bed, and collect my family's cell phones so I can rig this up.

    God forgive me, I am about to commit the greatest sin.
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    #28

    Aug 29, 2008, 11:08 PM
    Hahahaha... this is one of the most ridiculous post I've ever read, you obviously want drama. YOu Don't love her, you just have the idea of her and obsessed with it. TOOOOOO desperate.

    Ok then, if you can't seem to think then just do it! Life can't be better without experiences. Do it then you'll find out what really works in REAL LIFE.

    Come back and tell us the result :)
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    #29

    Aug 30, 2008, 05:55 AM
    You really need help, after everyone s advice here to do the exact opposite you are still persistent to go ahead with this ridiculous plot. Please seek help for yourself, as this is becoming borderline crazy and can seriously become dangerous.
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    #30

    Aug 30, 2008, 07:03 AM
    TROLL ALERT!!!!!!!!
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    #31

    Aug 30, 2008, 07:39 AM
    I agree with the others! What if she asked too many questions and realized you were lying? Then she would hate you for sure! What if all she was able to do would be send some flowers and a card? You are not going to accomplish anything with this scheme!

    IF you only broke up because of distance and you have no reason for being apart and nothing holding you back why don't you just call and ask where things would stand with the two of you if you still lived close and then check into moving close to her?
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    #32

    Aug 30, 2008, 09:44 AM
    Honestly hope you have come to your senses
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    #33

    Aug 30, 2008, 10:06 AM
    It's a shame, because you are SO going to do this and it is SO self-destructive in many ways. A real shame.
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    #34

    Aug 4, 2012, 07:23 PM
    There are 6 Billion people on earth.. 3bil male... 3 bil female.. u got 100 yrs to live.. your wasting your time on one??

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